I grew up on "Free To Be You and Me" -- you know, the one where Princess Atalanta tells her father that, no, he doesn't get to choose who she marries and that she might not even married thank you very much. Naturally, when I decided to get married, I didn't wait around for my husband to ask me, I asked him. It's a long story involving some cleverly place pizza toppings, but that's not the point.
The point is, I don't see any reason why I should have to wait around for someone to call me and ask for an interview. It all just seems terribly old-fashioned, like "good heavens!" and women in white gloves.
Anything that gets me in the room with an employer -- whether that be a virtual room or actual room -- is an interview. Period.
Here's why: My awesomeness factor is a lot higher in person than on paper. I'm assuming that's true for most people, unless you go around calling yourself an audio/video resuscitation facilitator on your resume instead of TV repairman.
"Face it, you know you are great. Your parents tell you that. Your spouse and kids tell you that...accelerate the process," says Jay Forte, president of Humanetrics, LLC, and author of "Fire Up! Your Employees and Smoke Your Competition."
It's a lot like dating: job seekers who wait to be called will be waiting a very long time, says Career Expert Deborah Bailey. "'Wait and see' is not a career strategy unless you're waiting to see how long you'll be unemployed," she said. "If you can find out who the hiring manager is...contact them politely through email or phone. If you make contact with them, don't ask them to hire you because that will probably be a bit of a turnoff. Bribery isn't a good idea either. Just be as conversational as possible and leave them with a good impression."
Something happens psychologically once you meet someone that makes it harder for them to reject you later.
"In face to face contact, people get information about you through eye contact, body language, tone of voice. Such interactions are the beginning of a bonding or attachment process between adults," says Sandra Naiman, psychologist and author of "The High Achiever's Secret Codebook: The Unwritten Rules for Success at Work."
In other words, I wouldn't be as quick to return the ugly shoes Aunt Bertha bought me for my birthday if I had to return them directly to the designer. Or, at the very least, the designer would get one last chance to tell me all the reasons I should keep them.