Category: Love and Marriage

Touch and Go

Touch and Go
In his crazy-eights youth, Steve would toss off his marital status as “separated- Janet’s in the suburbs, and I am in Chicago.”  Ha Ha. Fast forward 30 odd years, and that joke becomes our truth. Except that he is in Pompano Beach, and I am in Chicago. With strategic blending. This is a blending week,... Read more »

Some beauty in the world...

Sweet, talented and beautiful Ellen Page agreed to do a keynote speech for professionals who serve and support the LGBT community. And then she gave them the gift of gratitude and fulfillment.  What a girl, what a speech. I hope I live long enough that “I’m gay” isn’t the catalyst for a standing ovation any... Read more »

Back to Reality

OK. What the hell happened to the holidays? What the hell happened to me during the holidays? There was only a twenty- six day window for merriment after we carved the turkey, and I allowed it to evaporate. That is not like me. Steve’s dad was in residence for an extended stay: November 26-December 28.... Read more »
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And Jackson makes three….

There is a special resonance to the moment when your baby becomes a parent. I have been in the afterglow of that since October 24th.  Matthew and Justine’s little boy, Jackson, popped in a week early and ready to change all our lives forever. He was tiny: 6-10, 18.5 inches, and beautiful.  Hair: blondish. Eyes:... Read more »

15 years ago, and today.

A beautiful Saturday.  Sunshine. Coffee with friends. A call from Steve. Awkward pauses. What is wrong? Tell me. Your Mother is dead. What? She was dead in her bed when your dad got up to use the washroom.  An ambulance came. They could not revive her. Shall I come and get you? No. A drive... Read more »

Is Octoberfest the Wrong Theme for a First Birthday?

Is Octoberfest the Wrong Theme for a First Birthday?
Who cares?  The Maryfest has been held.   The first princess in the Roger Dahl line after 85 years of waiting is Mary Joliat Dahl.  She was born one year ago, on September 29th.  The occasion demanded a celebration. Mike and Kathryn live in a townhouse, and they wished to have a party for Mary’s... Read more »
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Harvest Days-Humbug

I wish I was one of those people who loved Fall. I am not. Fall color, cider, apple crisp- they are distractions. Evil is ahead. When I was younger, September meant school and the exceptional terror that the Sisters of Charity  doled out. How to avoid corporal punishment crossed my mind. We went to a... Read more »

For Better or Worse, Pt.2

For Better or Worse, Pt.2
Two Minds, One Heart Thirty five years ago I inscribed Steve’s wedding band with that platitude.  It seemed to acknowledge that we came from differing families, geographies, goals, and personalities, but were committed to forging a singular route through life. That was the folly of a young woman. If marriage is really about maintaining all... Read more »

For Better or Worse...Part 1

This weekend found me in my homeland, Detroit,   for a momentously happy occasion. My brother Paul’s beautiful daughter Jillian Joliat was married to Rob Dare. It is the culmination of a five year courtship, punctuated by distances and adaptation.  The marriage will not change that: Rob will finish law school in Pittsburgh and Jillian... Read more »
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Gifts from My Sea

Gifts from My Sea
My book club just finished a tandem reading of The Aviator’s Wife alongside Gift From the Sea.  The former, by Melanie Benjamin, is novel of historical fiction about Anne Morrow Lindbergh- you know, the aviator Charles Lindberg’s wife. She was an amazingly accomplished aviator, navigator and writer, the mother of six children. She was a... Read more »