The Jae List: Five Tips on How to Survive a Facebook Fight

The Jae List: Five Tips on How to Survive a Facebook Fight

Hey JaeListers!

It's your resident know it all, guru of what's in and out, and lover of life, Mz. Jae. I wanted to share with you my Five Tips on Howto Survive a Facebook Fight. Now, most recently I got into a minor tiff on Facebook with someone I don't really know. I posted a status, they made I comment and "LET'S GET READY TO RUMMMMMBBBBLLLLLEEE!"

Now, I'm usually calm and collected. I like to laugh and have fun.. all day. However, the one thing that will make me give you "The Rock" eyebrow (You are still the People's champ, Dwayne Johnson!) is condescension. It's unnecessary and just mean spirited. Also, you can't make a comment and then say "no shade." Ummmm...Yeah. SHADE to the tenth power. It's like someone hitting you in the eye and as you stand there holding your eye in place, they say "my bad." No. Flag on the play. Bad Form. Unsportsman-like conduct. Whack!

But here are Five Tips on how to Survive a Facebook Fight.

1. Do Not Block the person you are fighting. This is a battle of whits and one-liners. Use the "block" as a last resort. Blocking immediately only sends the signal that you can't hang so use it wisely. FJ

2. State Facts. Argue the argument. Don't bring up past post or past situations. Stay focused. Stay the course. This is not about what they posted 10 weeks ago in a private chat. This is about the here and now.

3. Draw A Line. When the smoke clears, you have to sleep at night. Never become a bully. Keep that imaginary line in view. Look at it. See it. Get close to it. NEVER cross it. Even if you delete the comment, you can never guarantee who saw it and screenshot it. FH

4. Set A Time Limit. If this beef is going on for hours and preventing you from doing other things because you are waiting for the next comment- log off. Its hard to argue with someone who isn't saying anything or making any comments. Time is something that you can never get back. Once it's gone, it's gone. In the immortal words of Drake, "... be made that I gave this some attention."

5. Make your next post, your best post. After it is all said and done, Social Media is pretty damn dope. No need to take a hiatus because you have a escalated argument. You have a few friends that will like whatever your post, so make it good.


What did I learn: I learned that when social media beefs happen, you become the topic of conversation, but not in a good way. People will read every comment, laugh at every dig, but look at you as if you are the social pariah of society. All of the positive things your said, funny quotes you've typed mean nothing. You name will be the punchline of their jokes with friends. Your name will now be a verb instead of a noun.

Disagreements will happen. We are all different so our thought processes aren't the same, neither are our experiences. In the future, I will attempt to avoid social media conflicts, but I take no experience for granted.


That's my two cents!




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    For Chicago-native and rising star, Mz. Jae, getting to have her voice heard is like a fairytale come true. Buzz about Mz. Jae began about 4 years ago while hosting a Poetry Set at Peace and Posh Cafe, on the south side of Chicago. This curvy girl with lots of energy and a megawatt smile fearlessly entertained us all with a new brand of poetry called Cometry. Mixing laughter with a message became contagious. Mz. Jae penned and gave birth to her signature pieces, "Jeans" and "Crazy about you." Wowing audiences became easy and her love for the art became her passion. In 2009, Mz. Jae transitioned and became a member of P.O.E.T, People of Extraordinary Talent. Under the guidance of Blaq Ice, Mz. Jae was groomed for the main stage. Through artist development, harnessing her raw talent, she hit the main stage at "Breaking the Ice" in 2010. Since her debut, she's down countless shows and events earning her the nickname, "Wonder Woman." Mz. Jae describes her brand of poetry as Comedy and Poetry giving birth. "I try not to beat people over the head with concepts or principles. If I can make you smile and think, then I've done my job," Mz.Jae dotes. "Poetry is not just locs, burning incense and beating drums. It's expression of oneself, whatever that may mean to you. Poetry has many faces. I am just one of them." When asked about her influences, Mz. Jae has a long list of artists that she admires, including Elena Love, Blaq Ice, Vertigo, Lamar Hill and a host of others. Performing poetry for the past 6 years, she has gotten a glimpse of many artist and their evolution. Not yet a veteran, but still not the new kid on the block, Mz. Jae is ever changing and so is her gift. Mz. Jae plans to perform on bigger stages and perfecting her craft. In 2012, she released her debut album entitled, "The Tenth Letter." Mz. Jae is a blogger for 3 Wise Women,, and Mz. Jae's mantra is "God, you can have the glory, just give me the victory!"

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