Yes I’m one of those women! I’ve had my heart trampled on by men. I’ve been hurt, borderline bitter and I’ve been angry. I’ve been strong more times than I’ve been weak, but only because I've had to be, not because I want or wanted to. I’ve been at this love thing for quite a long time and when it’s all said and done WE NEED YOU!
I would rather to have loved and lost than to live a life having never loved at all because I know what good love feels like, looks like, tastes like and it’s in you! Others may have written you off, look down at you, choose others over you but I’m here writing, letting you know that… WE NEED YOU!
As women, mothers and daughters we need you! We need your affection, your conversation. We need you to be open and honest with us. Take care of us even when we appear to be too independent to ask. WE want to be WANTED and not just needed, appreciated and admired. Honor us enough to be committed to our commitment and our family. We need for you to step in, step up and take charge. We need help with the chores and with the children even when we have on our superwoman cape thinking that we can do it all. It’s ok to show us that while we can do it, we don’t have to. WE need for you; our beautiful and amazing men to step up, step in and step out for us and with us. To assure us that it's safe to give you our hearts without judgment, criticism of our past hurts, pains or failures. We are waiting for you to be the strongest men that we know you can be. WE need for you to be the men that lead.
MAKE US FEEL THAT IT'S SAFE TO BE VULNERABLE--WITHOUT BEING LET DOWN
Understanding that as men you have needs too! Ladies OUR men need to be supported, and valued as well. They need for us to be their companions and not the woman who complains all of time. What we do to get them is what we should be doing to keep them. Be fly! Don’t take the fact that he loves you as a sign that you no longer have to be sexy. Ladies remember to K.I.S.S. (Keep it simple and sexy) BE his best supporter. No one can cheer your man on like you! Trust me you don’t want someone else cheering your man on either! Admire and appreciate him, love him, compliment him and say thank you.
I don’t believe for one second that we are no longer falling in love. Just as I don’t believe that there are no good men and good women left. WE are everywhere and we need each other to survive.
We all have baggage, men and women, some good, some bad and even some ugly. However it is and was never designed for us to take that baggage, use it against one another or ourselves to create this type of disconnected and hurtful behavior that we see today. WE are more than our baggage, lyrics and titles of a rap song, history, past hurts, heartbreaks and pains. Our past is merely a stepping stone in the direction of who we are on our way to becoming. If we want something different then we must be willing to DO something different. All I know is that if WE are ever going to restore balance to our love, our relationships, change our future for the better then something has to change and truth be told WE NEED YOU! Making Love Better TwoGether is almost impossible without you!
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Yanni Brown, a ChiCity born, Certified Relationship & Intimacy Educator and if you asked "What's Love Got to Do With It" she would answer without hesitation "Absolutely Everything."