Is the Grass Greener?
We’ve heard the expression the grass is greener on the other side but I overheard my mom and a group of her girlfriends discussing this said grass and wanted to glean from their wisdom, so I pulled up my chair and got an earful.
The conversation began with something like this “It seems like now a days people are falling in love with the idea of love” Not realizing that falling in love is the easy part. BEING in love is the work. Don’t get me wrong, the work is well worth it with the right partner, but couples today are OUT just as quickly as they got in. As soon as trouble comes, to the other side of the fence they go!
Then all of the women rattled off the number of years that they’ve been married. The years ranged from 18 years to 45 years. I thought, wow that is a long time to be with one person. One of the ladies must have read the expression on my face because she quickly said. “Baby, these have not been all easy years, but worth every year none the less” and the grass discussion ensued.
Grass doesn’t get green on its own, it takes lots of work. You have to cultivate it, condition it, mow it, prune it, fertilize it, feed it, water it, winterize it, get it ready for the summer, replant seeds and sometimes even talk to it. BE aware that WEEDS will pop up at anytime and anywhere. So you have to have a watchful eye to keep your lawn free of those pesky weeds.
What does this have to do with relationships? Sometimes we think that the grass is greener on the other side because it looks like it is. The sun is hitting it just right, it's beautiful and it looks as if it is being maintained effortlessly. There are no brown spots, or weeds that you can see at first but the reality is ALL grass/relationships take work and the time and energy that you may spend pursuing another relationship is time that can be spent cultivating the one that you have. If you ask any couple that’s been together for some time and has weathered a storm or two, they will quickly tell you "That other grass needs upkeep too!" It didn't get that way overnight! So don’t be so quick to tend to someone else’s grass because their grass has a few weeds too.
Cultivate your own lawn by digging in and doing the work. No it's not always easy but you will see that your grass can be just as pretty and green as the grass on the other side. Doing the work twogether ensures that you will have a pretty lawn each and every spring. You can even add a few flower beds, a fountain, a section for fruits and vegetables. In other words...Use your imagination and make it your own!
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