Have you ever learned so much in a relatively short period of time that it feels like your head is going to explode? Yea, me either, but if you’re taking notes, this could be the beginning of one of those times.
The past two years have been pretty mind blowing for me. There have been more changes than I thought possible, but here I am, at the end of this year, and I’m looking forward to, and being open for, what other good changes the universe holds for me.
A little over two years ago, The Big Guy and I took a Route 66 trip - IN A CAR - just the two of us. That’s right, we survived that many faceted trip, even writing about it in the Traveling Over 60 Chronicles. If you missed them, you can see them here
Soon after we returned from that trip, and having discussed the topic throughout the trip, we put our 5 bedroom family home on the market, and bought a new downsized house.
“They” say that once you’ve made a decision and started toward that direction, the universe takes over and changes start to occur. Holy shit, that should have included a caveat that one was to hold onto their shorts, ‘cause you’re gonna be in for quite a ride.
And a ride, it has been. Admittedly, there have been a few curves along the way.
For instance, less than one year into our new house and surroundings, a week or so before Christmas, my husband and all the other over 60’s in his office were offered a retirement package from his company.
The added OMFG was that if not enough people took this package, the company would make that decision for them. OK, so now what? The Big Guy was never a big gambler, so the sure thing of leaving on his own terms in two years was evidently off the table. Decisions, Decisions. . . . Retirement it was.
So, officially, this past October, The Big Guy took his last breath of full-time employment and became that old retired Big Guy.
I gotta say, it’s been two months and we haven’t killed each other yet. As a matter of fact, we are starting a fairly new relationship with each other. We’ve been “together” over 40 years, but between work, kids, sports, yada, yada, yada, the time has been anything but our own.
We’ve taken a couple post retirement trip together already, spent time investigating our still new surroundings, and all in all, we’re beginning to learn how to live with someone after 40+ years of living with someone.
I had been warned that things will change by people I know that have retired, but it was mostly in a negative way. Once we get our cadence with this newfound lifestyle, I’m sure things will even out. Right now, we haven’t had much time to stop and just “be.” There are so many things to do that we had not been able to do over those work years and we are planning to make up for lost time before our time runs out.
So why am I telling you this? Because life is short and you need to grab it by the fine hairs before it slips away from you completely. Let in someone else’s light, because combined with your own, it only makes your light as well as theirs, shine brighter.
Whether it be politics, family, work or whatever - Look to change your perspective, if only a little bit, if only just to listen one time and not talk. It can start a chain reaction. It can be a good thing that will propel you into the next phase of growth and a wider tolerance and broader perspective.
It’s hard work to do this. I’m looking at a huge pile of sand one grain at a time, but I’m also seeing that it can be done, and it’s contagious once you get started.
So, enjoy the holidays with an open heart and mind. Be kind. Listen. Don’t be unkind. Treat others as you would like to be treated – with love and respect.
And as far as the new year?
No new year’s resolutions for me - they are too difficult to keep and don’t usually last the week. But this one resolution, this one act of tenacity will prove to make you and the world you live in a better place.
Peace out. . . for now
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