Mother's Day makes me cringe.
Not because of the day itself but because random people will wish me "Happy Mother's Day" all day long.
I realize that as a woman of a certain age it's easy to assume that I have children. That there are war stories of running down children, changing diapers and wiping noses.
I have no stories because I have no children.
Assuming that you can raise another person to be a good, kind valuable member of society is pretty ballsy to begin with. Children really are a blessing---a terribly frustrating and complicated blessing---but a blessing nonetheless. I applaud you ladies who have taken on the task of motherhood.
'Cause it looks exhausting.
When someone wishes me a "Happy Mother's Day" I usually return their greeting with a blank stare. If I'm really pissy, I reply back with a "I'm no one's mother."
Additionally, Mother's Day is always challenging as my own mother is no longer alive. I just love to be reminded of that multiple times on a designated Sunday in May.
I can only imagine how women who have lost a child, or in some cases children, respond to that greeting. I would think it's like ripping open a painful wound every time they hear it.
Yes, you mean well---I understand that. Not every woman is a mother and if she is a mother there may be painful memories of loss. You don't know.
So please, I'm begging you, leave me in peace today. Don't assume I'm a mother.
That greeting should be reserved for those who you know are actual mothers. Give those ladies the glory.