Posts in category "vulnerability"

Learning how to hurt and then how to heal at age 4 and 44

There’s a pattern to their fights. To their skirmishes. To their kerfuffles. They are four. They are twins. They wrestle and touch each other CONSTANTLY until it gets to be too much and somebody snaps. When they push each other down and call each other names and maybe even bust out an I HATE YOU, I... Read more »

An Open Letter to Makers, Sellers, and Buyers of the Drunk Wives Matter Tumbler

“It’s like mockery, entitlement, and tone deafness all at once. It’s like spinning plates only the plates are made of actual garbage.” – my kick ass favorite friend Terry. An Open Letter to Makers, Sellers, and Buyers of the Drunk Wives Matter Tumbler: I found your ad for your “Drunk Wives Matter” tumbler on my... Read more »

My Stylist tried to talk me out of this new haircut but I resisted

Back in March, my 4 year old daughter asked to cut her hair super short. She loved it as it was happening and she’s loved it every day since. Not a word of regret, only feeling herself and her look. I want what she has. All this time, I’ve secretly been wanting to cut my... Read more »
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DO IT ANYWAY - Listening to that Small Voice

When do we lose the courage to speak out about what we need? What’s right and wrong? At what point do we become complicit? When do we stop asking for help for fear of perceived weakness? When do we lose the ability to speak our truth without fear of repercussion?  When do we stop honoring and... Read more »

Is Alcoholism a Disease or a Choice?

I have these conversations almost daily.  Somebody is having problems with a family member or friend or themselves and so they ask me these same questions as in this recent text from a friend asking my opinion – I’m not saying everyone is the same, but the sickness is almost always the same.  And it always... Read more »

Bottle Spotting Bingo

There’s this sick game I play and maybe you do it too. It’s probably mostly alcoholics like me who can spot a bottle a mile away. Like a twisted game of booze bingo.  And then I make up stories of the people who left them there. The discarded. The self medication aftermath. Is there a reason... Read more »
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I do not ever need to know what substances anybody had in their system when they died thank you very much

Every time someone dies and there’s cause for speculation as to what they died from, I yell and scream and claw my face off. I do not ever need to know what substances anybody had in their system when they died thank you very much. This person died.  That’s all that’s important.  Can we allow... Read more »

Why do moms think it's ok to scare the crap out of first-time pregnant women?

I had a conversation at preschool drop-off this morning about pregnancy and delivery.  We have these conversations a lot lately because our favorite preschool teacher is pregnant with her first baby.  As is warranted, she’s scared and excited and feeling all the feelings we all do as her delivery date approaches. She said that her... Read more »

Love and Marriage and Mold-A-Ramas

Every time we go to the zoo, we have to get a Mold-A-Rama. I think it’s a law in Chicago.  We grew up with the molded plastic animals, warm to the touch after coming out the machines and highly collectible. Just the waft of them can spark up nostalgia, and if there’s one thing my husband... Read more »
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10 Foolproof Steps to Make a Mom Friend

I MADE A MOM FRIEND TODAY! Because I am now an expert at mom friending, I shall give you 10 foolproof steps to make a mom friend.  You’re welcome. Pay close attention to social media.  When you see pictures pop up on a photographer’s page (who took your family pictures too!) of a cute family that... Read more »