Posts in category "kindness"

Learning how to hurt and then how to heal at age 4 and 44

There’s a pattern to their fights. To their skirmishes. To their kerfuffles. They are four. They are twins. They wrestle and touch each other CONSTANTLY until it gets to be too much and somebody snaps. When they push each other down and call each other names and maybe even bust out an I HATE YOU, I... Read more »

The Day Our President Openly Supported White Supremacy

It was Nikki’s birthday – August 15, 2017. I snuck out of work early to go meet our kids and our Nanny Nikki at the Museum of Contemporary Art and have lunch at Nikki’s favorite restaurant – Potbelly.  Oh wait, that’s the kids favorite restaurant. I should mention the looks that Nikki and I get... Read more »

DO IT ANYWAY - Listening to that Small Voice

When do we lose the courage to speak out about what we need? What’s right and wrong? At what point do we become complicit? When do we stop asking for help for fear of perceived weakness? When do we lose the ability to speak our truth without fear of repercussion?  When do we stop honoring and... Read more »
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I Found Kindness and Gratitude at the Other End of a Hairbrush

“You ready to have your hair brushed mama?” was the question that greeted me as I arrived home from work yesterday afternoon. This may well be the sweetest development in our 4.5 years together. Monday evening, as my girl was playing with my hair like she does, I asked her to go get my hairbrush.... Read more »

I do not ever need to know what substances anybody had in their system when they died thank you very much

Every time someone dies and there’s cause for speculation as to what they died from, I yell and scream and claw my face off. I do not ever need to know what substances anybody had in their system when they died thank you very much. This person died.  That’s all that’s important.  Can we allow... Read more »

Try Not to Cry, Mama: Preschool Graduation

My kids are four years old and they are already onto me.  Whenever there is a sappy commercial or they do something particularly sweet, they know if they look into my eyes they will find them already wet with hot tears. They can see it from across the room now and they get a little dimpled... Read more »
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Why do moms think it's ok to scare the crap out of first-time pregnant women?

I had a conversation at preschool drop-off this morning about pregnancy and delivery.  We have these conversations a lot lately because our favorite preschool teacher is pregnant with her first baby.  As is warranted, she’s scared and excited and feeling all the feelings we all do as her delivery date approaches. She said that her... Read more »

Love and Marriage and Mold-A-Ramas

Every time we go to the zoo, we have to get a Mold-A-Rama. I think it’s a law in Chicago.  We grew up with the molded plastic animals, warm to the touch after coming out the machines and highly collectible. Just the waft of them can spark up nostalgia, and if there’s one thing my husband... Read more »

10 Foolproof Steps to Make a Mom Friend

I MADE A MOM FRIEND TODAY! Because I am now an expert at mom friending, I shall give you 10 foolproof steps to make a mom friend.  You’re welcome. Pay close attention to social media.  When you see pictures pop up on a photographer’s page (who took your family pictures too!) of a cute family that... Read more »
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How to Persist in Kindness while Living in a Culture of Meanness

As we got out of our car last weekend to go to a new tumbling class (which both kids refused to do – but that’s another story), the woman in the car in front of us came over and said, “I’m random acts of kindness-ing you” and handed me a parking meter stub to put... Read more »