Posts in category "kindness"

The Mental Load of Motherhood is Heavier than Laundry

This one goes out to the moms.  Yes, just the moms.  I know the dads are out there too, doing their deal and I respect that.  But this? This is for the moms. This is for the full time working moms who leave early in the morning after doing more before 7am than many do... Read more »

In defense of the quitters

The word quit gets a bad rap. The mere thought of quitting makes some folks break out in hives.  You know QUITTERS NEVER WIN AND WINNERS NEVER QUIT and so on and so forth. Well, I’m here in defense of the quitters.  I’m here to say I’m a quitter and quitters do quit and are... Read more »

Things I want my daughter to know as we smash the patriarchy

This was in my daughters art pile from school yesterday. It’s not “pretty”. It’s tough and a little sad but with a tiny smile and achingly beautiful. Just like my girl. I asked her who it was and she immediately said, “OH THAT’S ME”. Of course I added the wording, but when I saw her self-portrait... Read more »
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I got to go to the Obama Foundation Summit Concert and all I got was this Hope, Inspiration, and Gratitude

Last week Nikki and I won two tickets (WHO THE HELL DO WE THINK WE ARE) to go to the Obama Foundation Summit Closing Night Concert.  If you don’t know about the summit, check it out. So much good stuff and inspiration and hope and folks making a difference in their communities and that right there... Read more »

Everything is terrible! Here is some good stuff to counter balance the horrors

I watched Patton Oswalt’s new stand up recently.  It was really good.  I cried and laughed and shook my head and marveled at how he can turn his pain and laughter through pain into something we can all relate to. Among his many gems he did a bit about “I wonder how many AA chips... Read more »

Learning how to hurt and then how to heal at age 4 and 44

There’s a pattern to their fights. To their skirmishes. To their kerfuffles. They are four. They are twins. They wrestle and touch each other CONSTANTLY until it gets to be too much and somebody snaps. When they push each other down and call each other names and maybe even bust out an I HATE YOU, I... Read more »
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The Day Our President Openly Supported White Supremacy

It was Nikki’s birthday – August 15, 2017. I snuck out of work early to go meet our kids and our Nanny Nikki at the Museum of Contemporary Art and have lunch at Nikki’s favorite restaurant – Potbelly.  Oh wait, that’s the kids favorite restaurant. I should mention the looks that Nikki and I get... Read more »

DO IT ANYWAY - Listening to that Small Voice

When do we lose the courage to speak out about what we need? What’s right and wrong? At what point do we become complicit? When do we stop asking for help for fear of perceived weakness? When do we lose the ability to speak our truth without fear of repercussion?  When do we stop honoring and... Read more »

I Found Kindness and Gratitude at the Other End of a Hairbrush

“You ready to have your hair brushed mama?” was the question that greeted me as I arrived home from work yesterday afternoon. This may well be the sweetest development in our 4.5 years together. Monday evening, as my girl was playing with my hair like she does, I asked her to go get my hairbrush.... Read more »
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I do not ever need to know what substances anybody had in their system when they died thank you very much

Every time someone dies and there’s cause for speculation as to what they died from, I yell and scream and claw my face off. I do not ever need to know what substances anybody had in their system when they died thank you very much. This person died.  That’s all that’s important.  Can we allow... Read more »