Posts in category "grief"

Bottle Spotting Bingo

There’s this sick game I play and maybe you do it too. It’s probably mostly alcoholics like me who can spot a bottle a mile away. Like a twisted game of booze bingo.  And then I make up stories of the people who left them there. The discarded. The self medication aftermath. Is there a reason... Read more »

2016 Was a Flaming Pile of Garbage - For This I am Thankful

I can’t seem to form much in the way of a hopeful end of the year post.  2016 can hit the road and take with it all the awful shit it brought our way.  As god awful as this year has been, I’m also thankful for all the hard work, all the hope, all the... Read more »

If You Woke Up Today in Disbelief About the Election Results

I am in shock.  I am entirely saddened.  I am angry and confused and feel like I’ve been duped. Because, as my friend Jane wrote last night: This feels like: Fuck you, women don’t matter. Fuck you, black and brown people don’t matter. Fuck you, non-Christians don’t matter. Fuck you, trans and gay and bi... Read more »

I Never Wanted Kids

I rarely take taxis anymore, but when I do I get extremely nauseous. The minute I enter, maybe even before my feet hit the floor, the bile rises to my throat before I can ask, “can you please roll my window down back here?” Why do all taxis smell the same?  It’s not an altogether terrible... Read more »

Just because I'm not shouting doesn't mean I don't rage

We with the tender hearts. It hurts to watch.  To listen.  To read.  It hurts my tender heart to feel the hate and the fear in the words behind the snarled teeth and the overbearing gestures.  The shots fired and received.  The venom and the sharing of it wide and far. My heart was not... Read more »

Because Life is Incredibly Sad - We Buy Tiny Bottles of Lotion

There’s a bittersweet tinge to the air right now.  As I weep happy tears scrolling through all the back to school photos, I think of the family I met yesterday at the mall. My girl and I were out on a mama/daughter morning – you know, pancakes out and walking around the outdoor mall.  The... Read more »

I’m angry but I’m still here. Stand with me.

This is a guest post from my friend Terry.  We’ve known each other for a few years now and have a kind of connection that is rare.  We both believe in spreading kindness, empathy and hope as much as possible and I value his point of view enormously.  I believe you will come away from... Read more »

To the Woman at the Park Heartbroken with Infertility

To the woman at the park heartbroken with infertility, Thank you.  Thank you for approaching us right away and saying hello. Thank you for asking if they are twins.  YES. Yes they are and they are, “HEY HOW OLD ARE YOU TWO?” “TWO.  WE GONNA BE FREE ON OUR BIRFDAY.” Thank you for NOT immediately... Read more »

ALS Walk for Life: In Honor of Uncle Chip

What is ALS? ALS is a progressive, degenerative disease affecting motor neurons. Motor neurons are specialized nerve cells that carry impulses from the brain to the muscles by way of the brainstem and the spinal cord. The muscles then move in response to these impulses. In ALS, motor neurons gradually cease functioning and die. As... Read more »

On Losing a Beloved Pet and Sharing Grief with Kids

Animal love. Pet love, specifically rescue pet love is almost unbearable. It’s what you take on when you love another living being no matter what. We all die someday. Is it worth the pain?  Yes. Absolutely positively unequivocally yes. Nothing compares.  I wouldn’t wish the pain away.  But damn, does it hurt. Our sweet old... Read more »