Category: feminism

Middle-Aged Feminism

Are you like me when it comes to dealing with (most) men these days? HI. Hi. Instead of that 24/7, I’m trying to channel that energy into more positive, productive messages. But these men make it DIFFICULT. All day every day, I see little things men do and say to women that are awful. To varying... Read more »

Things I want my daughter to know as we smash the patriarchy

This was in my daughters art pile from school yesterday. It’s not “pretty”. It’s tough and a little sad but with a tiny smile and achingly beautiful. Just like my girl. I asked her who it was and she immediately said, “OH THAT’S ME”. Of course I added the wording, but when I saw her self-portrait... Read more »

Everything is terrible! Here is some good stuff to counter balance the horrors

I watched Patton Oswalt’s new stand up recently.  It was really good.  I cried and laughed and shook my head and marveled at how he can turn his pain and laughter through pain into something we can all relate to. Among his many gems he did a bit about “I wonder how many AA chips... Read more »
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Do You Identify as a Woman? Welcome to Your Pre-Existing Conditions

Here is a listing I found of pre-existing conditions: AIDS Alcoholism/Alcohol Abuse (within 7 years) Angioplasty Aortic Stenosis Arteriosclerotic Heart Disease Ascites (within 5 years) Bi-Polar Disorder Boecks Sarcoidosis By-pass surgery Cancer (other than skin cancer)/Malignant Melanoma² Cerebral Vascular Accident Cerebral Vascular Disease Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disease (if currently smoking) Chronic Pancreatitis Chronic Renal Failure... Read more »

How to Persist in Kindness while Living in a Culture of Meanness

As we got out of our car last weekend to go to a new tumbling class (which both kids refused to do – but that’s another story), the woman in the car in front of us came over and said, “I’m random acts of kindness-ing you” and handed me a parking meter stub to put... Read more »

My 4 Year Old Daughter Asked to Cut Her Hair Super Short

For roughly a year, my daughter has been asking to get her hair cut really short.  I believe it began last year when her twin brother got his first haircut at a real, brick and mortar shop.  She didn’t because I continued to cut her hair.  Just a pageboy, with bangs, and I could still... Read more »
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In Defense of Nannies and Their Employers

There was a video making the rounds recently about a dad doing an interview from home when his kids busted in and all hell broke loose.  The mom ran in after the kids and it was precisely what it feels like and looks like working from home with small kids.  The internet had a field... Read more »

Things I Love Thursday - The Obamas

Many have written their beautiful tributes to President Barack Obama, First Lady Michelle Obama, and their girls turned young women as of late.  I was going to let it pass and let others do the thanking for me, but alas, I need to throw my thanks in as well.  If you’re not here for this,... Read more »

If You Woke Up Today in Disbelief About the Election Results

I am in shock.  I am entirely saddened.  I am angry and confused and feel like I’ve been duped. Because, as my friend Jane wrote last night: This feels like: Fuck you, women don’t matter. Fuck you, black and brown people don’t matter. Fuck you, non-Christians don’t matter. Fuck you, trans and gay and bi... Read more »
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40-something women: Lend me your previously pierced in several places ears

Yeah, I’ve got some piercings that have closed up.  But if you look closely, you see it’s still there. And if I pushed hard enough, an earring would fit right through there with a bit of pain.  Just like old behaviors. Open them back up and they have to heal all over again.  I got... Read more »