Wishes Are Great, But SMART Goals Actually Make Them Happen

Last week, I was listening to a presentation where the first power point slide laid out the goal of the project. Or what they thought was a goal. If this was someone presenting his/her dating goal to me in that same way I would tell them they are sharing their hopes, dreams and wishes. And those won’t come true unless they have a goal. Whether it’s personal or professional, the goal needs to be SMART: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant and Time Bound.

For example, when I turned 40, I joined Tinder with the intention of getting a boyfriend by going on at least 12 dates over the next 12 months.

Specific: Use Tinder to get a boyfriend

Measurable: Go on at least 12 dates

Attainable: Shoot for a boyfriend, not a husband or a fiancé

Relevant: A logical first step towards my long-term goal of being married before I turn 45

Time Bound: 12 months

Having this direction made it easy to create a plan where I checked my progress daily, just like I would with a professional goal. If something wasn’t working, I tried to figure out why and I would change it. If things were going well, I would do whole lot more of that. It wasn't always easy, but I did go on 12 first dates over that next year. They weren’t all great dates, but I guess if they were, I wouldn't have needed 12 of them to find a boyfriend! I never gave up, and I did in fact meet a guy three days before the year was up. And he did become my boyfriend.

With SMART goals, I wasn’t wasting a bunch of time because everything I did just made sense, so in turn, I wasn’t getting frustrated, even after one guy asked the waitress if she knew where he could get some weed and then ditched out on the check. It was all part of the plan. If it didn’t work with one guy, I moved on to the next. I kicked back back and had so much fun during my year of yes that it ended just as I had planned.

What is your goal for 2018? Is it SMART? Will it help you get to your hopes, dreams and wishes?


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