I've seen the New Kids on the Block in concert many times, both when I was a teenager and a few more times in my 30s. That's not why I'm single. Well, at least I don't think that's why I'm single. But it is why I haven't met anyone at these concerts. Even when they added Boys II Men to the lineup last time, it was slim pickings in those arenas, but that's not why I go. Obviously. I do it because it's a blast.
I rarely do something that I don't like just to meet a guy. I'd rather find someone who has similar interests, and while music doesn't sound like a deal breaker, it actually can be. Have you ever been on a road trip with someone who has horrible taste in music? Or gone to a wedding with someone who doesn't want to get up and dance to your jam?
All of this can be avoided by attending your favorite concerts. Any type of concert. I just went to the Gavin DeGraw/Matt Nathanson show and at one point, DeGraw asked the crowd to clap along during specific parts of the song. Seemed easy enough, but he had us practice clapping before he actually performed the song. I thought that was odd, but when we clapped the first time, he seemed impressed that we were able to master it. Maybe he did that for show or maybe we really were the best clapping crowd he'd ever seen. Either way, it prompted me to look at the few guys around me, rocking out with their girlfriends who didn't seem to mind their awkward moves. I admired them for not caring what the rest of us were probably all thinking.
Not a show that dudes came out in packs for, but when you're as cool as Gavin DeGraw, that might just be because all the ladies bought the tickets first. So if you're a guy, you might be thinking Gavin DeGraw concerts are a great place to meet a girl, and you'd be right because there were lots of girls out in packs. However, you still have to compete with Gavin DeGraw. Seriously. The girls around me definitely thought they had a shot at dating him. If only they could scream a little louder or jump a little higher.
Outdoor venues with general admission seating provide lots of opportunities to chat with random people, so even if the quantity isn't there, you can weed through to find the quality dudes. If I'd gone to see Gavin DeGraw open for Billy Joel at Wrigley Field last weekend, it would've been a different story as Facebook told me every single person I've ever met was at that concert. It looked like a great mix of people and Wrigleyville is always a great place to meet people.
All of this got me thinking about the best and worst concerts to meet a guy, with the first one that came to mind being Cher. Even though it would actually be pretty awesome to see her put on a show, I could only hope to meet a Sugar Daddy if I actually went. I was out at the honky tonks in Nashville in April when this concert let out, and while I had a blast with the ladies who trickled into the bar afterwards, they confirmed that not only were there no single guys there, but we would've been the youngest people there. By twenty years. That's when they starting telling us about their divorced sons, who are just "delightful". Go on, Nana, I'm listening.
I also went to P!nk in the Fall. Another amazing concert that brought out the female crowd, and I imagine Katy Perry and Lady Gaga would be a lot of the same. I assume Journey/Steve Miller Band, Willie Nelson, Motley Crue/Alice Cooper and Boston/Cheap Trick could bring out some guys, but the age would probably skew as high as Cher. Aerosmith could be a possibility, but then I run the risk of dating someone who likes Aerosmith. So what concerts ARE prime for picking up a guy?
My Top 5 Flirtable Concerts:
5) Bruno Mars and Pharrell Williams
4) Jimmy Buffett
3) Jay Z and Beyonce
2) Arcade Fire
1) Dave Matthews Band - No question, that Dave Matthews is a fantastic wingman. I've seen him many times and have had steady success meeting guys at these concerts, excluding the last time when I was jamming to "Ants Marching" with the fella behind me.
"Man, I loved this song in junior high," he yelled over the long instrumental DMB loves to play.
"You mean college, right?" I asked with my fingers crossed.
"College?!" he said with a laugh. "I wasn't in college in the 90s!"
That's on me. With so many guys in one place, sometimes I make my choice too quickly. He clapped on beat without any practice, which strangely then threw me off my game. But the cool thing about Dave Matthews' concerts, there's always another guy just down the aisle.
With all of this in mind, who thinks Zac Brown Band at Wrigley Field could be a flirtable concert?