Mark Zuckerberg wedding: Finally, people with nothing to prove (except EVERYTHING!)

Facebook mench Mark Zuckerberg and his long-term lady friend Priscilla Chan surprised backyard party-goers Saturday with an unannounced wedding. Apparently guests thought they were there for a graduation party but -lo!- out marches Zuck in a tux and the bridal music starts. (I'm sure those who ignored that Evite are kicking themselves. Had something better to do, did ya?) The result was a wedding that made a statement about marriage.

The ring was a simple ruby, the gown designer wasn't even mentioned and they feasted on sliders or something in their backyard with a handful of guests. In direct contrast to the Kardashianification of American weddings, the billionaire Zuckerbergs don't have anything to prove.  No pomp, little circumstance. No butt implants or diamond forehead bands. Why? Perhaps they're sending a message that marriage is between the people involved and the validation of which is impervious to the criticisms of the outside world.

I might be extrapolating here, but roll with it! I think the Zuckerbergs demonstrated that marriage not about what we think of their relationship (genuine, if a bit frigid) their lives (remarkable, if a little boring).  What we think doesn't matter. That goes for a couple of billionaires as much as every other couple who wishes to commit themselves in matrimony. Marriage is about the two people who are married to each other.

We got married in a Catholic church by a little white haired man who reminded me of a kitten. I think he weighed 90 pounds. I was a little out of my element and somehow had gotten the idea that the priest might say no. After all, we had to take a bunch of tests and go through a seminar. It was like wedding boot camp and who knew if we would pass the final? The Kitten Priest must have sensed my fear because he informed me that it wasn't up to him if we got married. He said, "the Church isn't granting you some special thing. The marriage is between you two, and it's only as important as you make it." It stuck with me because it was true.

So much of the defense of marriage argument has to do with how the "defenders" feel. But it's not about us or our feelings, as the wise little priest said to us before our wedding, it's about how the people feel who are getting married.

Marriage between two people has nothing to do with how icked out the conservative camp feels about homosexual activity or how racists feel about interracial marriage. In short, marriage is none of anyone's business but the bride and groom. Or the groom and groom. Or the brides!

This dismissal of outsider opinions of marriage was demonstrated perfectly by Mr. and Mrs. Facebook. Congrats!


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  • Lovely post, and they appear to be a lovely couple. Just an observation, though - - they married 24 hours after Mister became a gazillionaire. In California. Where community property rules exist. 50/50 of all wealth accumulated during the marriage and all.

    Timing is everything. And I, apparently, am a cynic. MTM.

  • In reply to Mary Tyler Mom:

    The Zucks authorized one person from the guest list to speak on behalf of them and apparently the date the company went public was a "moving target". They planed the wedding around her graduation date, so the fact it went public just prior to was a fluke.

  • Oops. I think I forgot to make my point, which is this: Mr. Facebook has nothing to prove, but everything to protect. MTM.

  • In reply to Mary Tyler Mom:

    True. I think it's weird that some people are calling her a gold digger though. She might have "Kate Middleton syndrome" for hanging on to a guy way longer than someone normally would just for the sake of who he is, but she's a doctor and comes from money in the first place. Not like she's, um, me who would have run to Barneys with his credit card the second the vows were said. Why stay for cake where there are shoes to buy?!

  • I agree about marriage, but he could have at least worn a tux.

  • I spent a lot of pre-bridal time with a friend of mine this past weekend who I swear is more excited about the wedding than the marriage. I love her, I do, she's one of my besties. But I think she has waited SO LONG to get married that her wedding fantasy has had ample time to germinate. But what do I know? My wedding was so totally about the marriage that we didn't even have a wedding. Just the JP and us. No fancy clothes. No party. No friends or family (other than our recently illegitimate child). The downside is that I still don't have a kitchen aide mixer or matching towels.

    Mr. & Dr. Zuckerburg I salute you!

  • In reply to Christine Whitley:

    Oh, so I feel you on this. I had a small wedding, but I was completely blind sided by what weddings entail. I literally had no idea that plated dinners are a $100 a head. I had *no* clue that you have to buy all these flowers and that a wedding dress alteration is $300. I'm glad I had the wedding I did I guess, but I have a feeling if I had ever picked up a bridal magazine a day in my life before I got engaged that I would have insisted on eloping.

    I'm glad that didn't happen because in spite of the cost though because we got some amazing speeches on video. We may not see them often but I do have proof our people love us!

  • Mary Tyler Mom writes: "Just an observation, though - - they married 24 hours after Mister became a gazillionaire. In California. Where community property rules exist. 50/50 of all wealth accumulated during the marriage and all."


    Sorry, that really comes across as some kind of entitlement that an unfair windfall in money *should* be part of marriage for the woman.

    Kind of sickening, really. It's SMART that he's trying to protect the money HE earned (from a distribution in a possible divorce), although it's STUPID that he got married at all.

    You housewives sound downright greedy. If you want money, work. Quit aiming at getting it out of men.

  • In reply to ArthurC:

    1. Mary Tyler Mom is employed

    2. Not that it's any of your business, but going into my marriage, I was the one who brought a chunk of cash.

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