Children are people too!

"You need to starve that one and fatten the other one up."

My friend and I were sitting at a restaurant this morning when a geriatric voice came from behind us passing judgement on my two baby girls in their stroller. The one he suggested I "starve" is all of 17 pounds and eight months old. The one who needs fattening is my skinny two-year-old.

I'm really not afraid to pop off to strangers, which you might not know about me unless you saw me tell Gramps my kids are FINE and PERFECT and HEALTHY and I don't need any GODDAMN OPINIONS.

What is it with this world? Would you ever walk up to two strange women at a table and say one needed starving and the other one needed fattening?

There is a gorgeous little boy I know with outrageous blond curls that swirl around his head like a golden halo. I just want to run my hands through that hair and maybe braid it or weave it into a sweater vest for running in the sunshine. It's awesome hair you just want to touch! But I don't, and you know why? Because he is a person with the right to personal space. His mother told me most people do not know this fact about human dignity and proceed to nuggie him at liberty wherever they go.

Would you do that to an adult? Would you grab a strange adult's thighs and say "chunky monkey!" or stick your finger in a stranger's mouth at the grocery store? No. Because that person is also over 100 pounds and might report you.

Why then do people not treat little people with dignity? Stay out of their personal space, keep your comments about their body to yourself, let them answer questions for themselves and treat them like humans. They are not pets!

Ah, with that out of the way, allow me to present this totally rad pumpkin.

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If anyone knows who made this, let me know!

Jenna Myers Karvunidis

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  • I wish I could get my mother-in-law to realize this! She is constantly petting/grabbing/hugging on my nearly 3 year old, even though he'll tell her not to. She will get mad at him if he tells her he doesn't want to be touched, and I even had to intervene once when she tried to discipline him for not wanting to be touched. He's a person, and if he doesn't want someone else touching him then he doesn't have to be touched. How else do kids learn that they have the right to keep their bodies private, if we won't allow them to do so when adults are groping at them?

    Interestingly enough, the same complete lack of common decency when it comes to touching strangers applies when you're hugely pregnant. I went to a friend's birthday party yesterday evening and had people I didn't know trying to rub my belly, telling me either how huge/how tiny I was (which is it, pray tell?), and generally getting in my space. Sigh.

  • In reply to Lindsey:

    RIGHT ON with the pregnancy bit. All this same stuff applies. All of a sudden people ask you how much you weigh, how much you've gained, what you have planned for your breasts, what your POOP is like. Are you kidding me?!?!?! Nunya business, people.

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    Totally agree with this. When did we stop teaching manners? I love that we have free speech and I can give my opionion. However, I would never go up to a mother and say this. You never know someone's situation. This guy should have walked right by us and said nothing. I mean really - if you do not have anything nice to say then do not say anything at all.

  • In reply to JodifromCincinnati:

    Was I too mean to him? I worried about that later. But this guy has NO idea what I've gone through trying to "fatten up" the skinny one. Oh well. At least it motivated us to get to the festival, right? Ha.

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    No you were NOT too mean to him. He needed to hear that - maybe next time he will keep his mouth shut!

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