Okay, this is going to be half public service announcement and half opinion (aka troll bait). Maybe I'll make it a series. Who knows! Anyway, here's the big news: Married ladies do not host men in their homes without their husbands present. This is a Rule of The Duh, why must I spell this out? Clearly it is not obvious to some people I know and it's causing some awkward sitches. Let's sketch it out.
I belong to a volunteer group of which I am the only female. My husband works long hours and so occasionally I host meetings with these peeps at my house. No problem. There's like six of them and Niko usually sails in the door at some point in the evening. The problem is when one of these guys wants to come over to discuss biz at other times. During the day. Alone.
This is not okay.
I'm not saying these guys are creeps or have ulterior motives. They are happily married dads whom I'm sure are going to be very insulted to read this. But the fact remains that I just don't entertain guys by myself. It's an agreement of my marriage. We don't do lunches or dinners, or in my case with the stay-at-home-dad crowd, play dates one-on-one with the opposite sex. Old fashioned? Fine. I always did like pretty aprons.
I find myself having to dodge and dodge when I really just want to scream no you cannot come over here unless my husband is home! Did Niko drag me by my hair back to his cave? Did my husband even suggest not having guys over while he's working? No. He doesn't have to. I just know if it were me who worked 70 hours a week to put veggie bacon on the table and he stayed home having play dates one lady at a time, some serious heads would roll. Right? I don't care if I'm crazy. I'd rather be crazy/lonely/bored than divorced.
It's assumed since I am a liberal lady in a progressive neighborhood that I'm somehow one of the guys - that no one should blink an eye at dudes just parking it in my house to shoot the breeze all day. But sorry. Boring neighbor dad today, slightly interesting UPS man tomorrow, super hott bike messenger next week. It's a slippery slope folks! No one sets out to cheat on their spouse. Just decide from the beginning that you will never spend time alone with a man you're not married to and you'll never have that problem.
Just call me Dr. Phillis!