As we were balancing to-go decafs and pushing our side-by-side toddlers into an aggressive city wind the other day, my friend yelled in my direction that she doesn't read my blog. "I'm sorry, I just do don't anything besides email." Her eyes were genuine.
"Don't worry about it," my eyes were not, "It's just a recap of real life and you're already here!" Lies. "It's okay, it's boring anyway!" It's not okay. (It might be boring anyway.)
Everyone has a blog. I followed 43 of them on Blogger.com and make more rounds with bookmarks. I've had no less that eleven blogs in my lifetime. Yes, I'm a stay-at-home type who reads the actual Sunday paper and whose idea of a party is Speed Scrabble, so maybe I have more time and inclination than most folks but a FRIEND? Not read my blog? Dagger in the heart.
After that conversation, I got to thinking about it. Are friends obligated to read each others blogs? Maybe not religiously, but the occasional click? Actually, no. Here's why.
In order to read a blog, it requires buying into the social media phenomenon. This particular friend of mine doesn't do Facebook either. I would never expect her to know my "status", so why should she read my blog? Would I get mad at my 80-year-old grandma for not having email? No and no.
In fact, the rules of friendship dictate that you not add yet another time-consuming activity into another mom's day. Thou shalt not be so needy for attention that your friends must spend an hour getting the latest updates on you before a play date. Besides, what would you have to talk about?
So you're off the hook everyone. You can make it up to me by being my Facebook fan
. Just kidding. Sort of.
"Oh, I'd better memorize the boring ass details of what my granddaughter had for lunch."