No more drive-by parenting. Parents need to be present and active in their children's lives. Social media has created more work for parents. If you don't want that extra work, then you should not allow your child to have any social media accounts. Drive-by parenting allows your children to post inappropriate material on social media sites and allows it to remain there. Parents need to know what their children are posting using social media.
Facebook and instagram have become havens for inappropriate behavior in children. They post inappropriate comments and very inappropriate pictures of themselves. There are many photos online of young girls using their push up bras to show their lifted cleavage. Some photos show young girls not wearing bras at all. The young boys post photos of themselves posing without shirts, holding their private parts.
A mother recently posted a blog about how she didn't want her sons looking at young girls exposed in such a provocative manner. I don't have sons, but I certainly don't want my daughters looking at photos of young men showing their penis in the flesh or as a bulge in their pants. I also don't want my daughters looking at the writer's sons showing off their abs and pecks with their shirts off. She made a great point but it was undercut by her posting photos of her sons posing without shirts while making it.
NOTE: The writer has reposted her blog with different photos of her sons. She should have made references to the inappropriate behaviors of young men as well. She has played into the double standard in society that women are sluts and men are studs.
Parents want their daughters to have upstanding male friends. Parents want their sons to have upstanding female friends. We should all make sure that our children are using social media responsibly. I think that if you know someone whose child has posted some questionable material online, you should feel comfortable suggesting to the parents that they take a look at the site or page. By making the suggestion, you are allowing the parent to take whatever action they see fit. After sharing the information, if they continue to allow their child to post inappropriate material, then you should have them blocked from your child's account.
I am not friends with my children on Facebook, but I have access to their accounts and I check their accounts periodically. I choose not to be friends with them because I don't want them to have access to things that adults may post on Facebook. Whatever course of action you choose to take when monitoring your child's social media sites, make sure that you let them know that there can be long term consequences to what they put on social media. The consequences can be from colleges, employers and maybe angry parents who write blogs.
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