Should parents know when their child is making a bomb in their home? How much privacy does your teen have? Do you snoop in your kid's room? Do you read their text messages? Do you view their Facebook pages? Do you check their tweets? Do you check your kid's email account? My answers to all of these questions is yes!
If my child is living in my home, I have every right to know what's going on in their bedroom. Just because they sleep there and keep their personal belongings in their room, does not make it off limits to me. One of the Columbine killers had guns in his bedroom and the parents stated that they didn't go in their son's room. Maybe if his parents had, some or all of those innocent victims would be alive today. An Oregon teen made bombs in his home and wrote a script detailing his moves to detonate the bomb.
He bragged at school about knowing how to make a bomb. Thank God, a fellow student became afraid to go to school after hearing him talk about bombs and told his mother, who contacted the authorities.
You should read your kid's text and email messages so that you know if they are sending inappropriate messages. It also lets you know if they are receiving inappropriate messages.
Facebook pages can get anyone into a lot of trouble. It's important to periodically check your child's Facebook page. Teens are not adults and they still need guidance. Checking your child's Facebook page can let you know if they have posted something inappropriate. It also allows you to know what their friends are up to.
Twitter is another social media that has gotten teens into big trouble. Shortly after the presidential election, I wrote a blog about several teens that got into trouble for posting racist tweets about President Obama.
As parents, it our responsibility to provide guidance, to teach our kids right from wrong. Years ago, it was simple to do that, but technology has made our job a little more difficult. While I personally embrace all of the technological advances, there are some down sides. Some parents feel as though it is an invasion of their child's privacy to check emails, texts and Facebook posts, but I think that it is part of a parent's job to monitor what their child is doing.
It's just like checking to see if your child completed his or her homework or checking to see if their room is clean. When teens get into trouble, the authorities call their parents because they are responsible for them. If your teen was using drugs, having sex or making bombs, wouldn't you want to know so that you could give them guidance on their choices?
Until you feel as though your teen knows more than you about life, I suggest that you periodically check those emails, texts, tweets, Facebook posts and visit their bedrooms .