Have you been reduced to bribing your children?

I recently heard a story about a mom who bribed her child with an iPod touch in exchange for her child agreeing to take a test prep class for a high school entrance exam. I personally do not believe in negotiating with or bribing children, period. If you are the parent, your child is supposed to do what you say, period! You should not have to promise your child anything in order to get them to do what you want them to do.

There have been too many times to count that I have witnessed parents bribing their children with candy, snacks, money and other goodies in order to get them to behave.  What gives?  Has your peace of mind become for sale at such a low rate? Don't you realize that when you start paying off your child, it only gets worse because the stakes will get higher.  You may start by giving your 5-year old a quarter to behave or to put their toys away but by the time that kid is a teenager, you will be handing out iPhones, iPods, video games, expensive clothes and lots of cold hard cash.

Why should your child be rewarded for doing what they are supposed to do, which is what you tell them to do?  Are you rewarded with goodies for cleaning your home, taking out the trash, cooking or taking your kids to school?

If you start this bad habit, they will eventually expect to be bribed for everything.  They will refuse to do whatever they don't want to do without payment from you. Think about what your life would be like if you had to pay your child to go to school, do their homework or take a bath.

If you have been reduced to bribing your children, you have lost control of your household and your children are now in charge.

 

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