Parents vs Teachers: The Who, What, Why & How To End It

Parents and teachers are supposed to work together to educate children and foster their development. It seems as though this relationship in many cities has taken a turn for the worse.

THE WHO:
Parents created and gave birth to the children. They are the child's first educators. Parents know their children well and have experienced all of the highs and lows in their lives before sending them to school. They are the caretakers every minute of the day that the children are not in school. The parents are ultimately responsible for the health and well-being of the children.

Teachers are trained to educate children. They spend at least 6 hours a day with children. Your child's teacher gets to know them really well. Teachers often see a different side of children than their parents experience.

THE WHAT:
There appears to be a war between parents and teachers these days. More and more parents are becoming adversarial towards teachers. Parents are more vocal in a negative way about issues in schools than they were 15 years ago. Teachers have also become more vocal towards parents. When did it become us versus them?

I've heard some horrific stories of parents cursing and threatening teachers. Parents have tried to have teachers fired. Really? Did your child's teacher's actions really warrant you trying to ruin their career?

With our nations education systems being worse than some third world countries, teachers are under the microscope. Bad teachers are being called out. Many parents ask, if teachers are truly teaching, why aren't the children learning?

THE WHY:
This war is going on because there is a lack of trust and respect. It's also because people don't know how to choose their battles. Parents think that teachers aren't teaching. Teachers think that parents aren't parenting. There is no need to fight over every little thing. Parents today are more in tuned with their child's needs because most are a little helicopterish. They believe that they must have their say about every little thing that concerns their children. This is where it gets tricky. We must learn to choose our battles wisely.

HOW TO END IT:
Parents and teachers need to trust each other until and unless that trust is broken. Realize that there are no perfect people in this world, not even you. Teachers will make mistakes because they are human just like you. If your child is at fault, just be quiet and let him/her learn their lesson. No teacher wants to hear a parent defend a child that has done something wrong. Parents need to respect the teacher's ability and authority as they relate to their child. Parents don't need to approach the teacher every time they don't agree with something that the teacher has done. Choose your battles wisely.

Teachers need to work hard and realize that they have a very important job that they must take seriously at all times. Unfortunately, I don't know anyone who has not had a bad teacher, but that should not ruin it for all of the good teachers. Teachers sometimes lash out without just cause because they are having a rough day. Teachers need to take a deep breath and count to ten before reacting in certain situations. Certain situations give parents the impression that the teacher is targeting their child, when they could just be having a bad day.

Respect the teacher even if you don't agree with him/her. When your child sees you disrespecting their teacher, they will have no reason to respect the teacher. Don't confront the teacher unless the issue is "truly" having a negative effect on your child. Teachers need to respect parents even if they don't agree with their parenting style.

Aren't we supposed to be working together for the sake of the child? It's not a good situation when the parents and the teacher don't get along.

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