Is your child spoiled? Do you give your kid everything he/she wants? Will you buy everything they ask, for Christmas or Hanukkah? As the holidays approach, this is a question that I always think about. How much loot will children get from their parents?
We've all seen these kids that throw tantrums in the store and we cringe when we watch the parents give in and buy whatever the kid was whining for. I've also seen the teen complain that their new phone is not the smart phone that they wanted. Or maybe you've heard the kid who says that he/she is the only person in their grade that doesn't have a particular item.
When you spoil your child by giving them everything that they want and allowing them to dictate what you will give them, you are causing problems for them in the future. Your children will not know how to work with others. Their employer will not give into their every whim. How will they learn to function in any type of relationship?
Parents, if you and your spouse have rules and standards in your home, stick to them. Don't let your kids whine and wear you down. Your kids' peer pressure should not affect your standards in life. It's not the end of the world when you say no to your child. You don't have to buy your child everything that they want, just because you can afford to. Many parents want their children to have a better life than they had. I get it! I want my children to have a better life than I had as well. A better life does not equal more stuff.
Parents need to make sure that their children appreciate the things that are given to them. When you truly appreciate something, you value it and you don't take it for granted. There are children who don't have food to eat or clothes to wear so parents need to let their children know just how fortunate they are. Children need to know that they are not entitled to phones, iPods, iPads, video games, toys, treats, designer clothes, laptops, etc. When parents are constantly giving their children these things and not teaching them to appreciate them, they develop a sense of entitlement. They believe that they are entitled to these things and their parents are required to buy them.
We as a society seem to put more emphasis on our wants instead of our needs and our children need to be taught the difference.
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