There are so many things that parents used to do that are being outsourced to others. It's worse than all of the corporations that outsource their customer service departments to other countries. Parents can hire someone to do almost every parenting job imaginable. Here are a few things that parents are hiring others to do:
- Feed and change their baby's diaper in the middle of the night.
- Take care of their baby even when one parent does not work.
- Get their baby to sleep through the night.
- Get their child to eat his/her vegetables.
- Teach their kid how to use the potty.
- Teach your child manners.
- Take their kids shopping.
- Teach their kid how to ride a bike.
- Prepare and plan school lunches.
- Teach their kid how to play catch.
- Plan their child's birthday party
- Get your child to stop sucking his/her thumb.
- Teach your child right from wrong.
Parents are hiring tutors for kids in kindergarten. If you completed high school there should not be anything that is too difficult for you to teach a five year old. People are also hiring batting and pitching coaches to help their children who are playing tee ball. Isn't the point of tee ball to teach the child how to play? Why aren't parents doing the simple things that traditionally come with raising children? How can you be excited about your kid going potty when you were not part of the journey? I remember how great I felt when my children learned to ride a bike. More important is the fact that my children remember how proud my husband and I were when they were finally successful at riding their bikes. Parenting is hard, but it is rewarding! It seems as though, many parents today, want to take the easy way out.
I'm tired of getting up in the middle of the night changing diapers and warming bottles for my baby, so I will just hire a night nurse to do it. I don't want to deal with my toddler not eating his vegetables, so I will just hire someone to make him eat. My kid doesn't want to do his/her homework so I will just hire someone to make my child do their homework. What if your kid just doesn't want to be nice? Do you hire someone to teach that too? Yes, because there are services to teach your child about peer relationships. Actually you might be able to accomplish that for your teenager without paying someone. Last week I wrote a blog titled "Should teens take a relationship "break-up" class? The class was focused on how to be nice when you break-up with someone. Parents should teach their kids how to treat others.
Dining out used to be a luxury for most Americans. Today it is a way of life. There are so many people who don't cook anymore. Their families are eating fast food or prepared meals everyday. Stopping at a store or restaurant and picking up a meal is easy. Cooking a meal for your family and watching them enjoy it and thanking you for it, is rewarding. I realize that not everyone enjoys cooking. The point is that children recognize the difference between a home cooked meal and one purchased at a store or restaurant. Hmmm could the obesity problem in this country be related to more families eating fast food or prepared meals?
Parents seem to want instant gratification. They don't want to put in the time and effort for parenting tasks that they deem unpleasant. I think that parents have lost their patience. They are easily frustrated with traditional parenting tasks and someone has seen fit to cash in on those frustrations. Just because you can afford to do something, doesn't necessarily mean it's a good idea to do it. It is a parent's responsibility to raise their children to become productive members of society. Every time you outsource your duties to someone else, that is valuable time and incredible experiences that are being lost between you and your child. Just so I am clear, not all of the these experiences will be pleasant but they will be rewarding. You may not see the reward until years later but you will see it.
If your nanny or someone else is handling potty training, bicycle training, bedtime stories, discipline, serving meals, kissing boo boos, planning birthday parties, doctor's visits, school plays, shopping and nurturing then why did you have a child? People who don't have the time or the endurance to handle raising children, should not have them. It takes a lot of time and effort to raise children and you should know that going in.
Has our society become so focused on fast and easy results that we as parents are outsourcing traditional and meanful parenting responsibilities to others? Please take my poll and post comments below to let your opinion be known. No sign-in required for the poll.