Ladies, ladies, ladies, birth control is not an option it is a requirement when you have sex before marriage. Black children are being born at an alarming rate of 73% to single mothers!
Last week I wrote about a few professional athletes that had children out of wedlock. Today I will focus on the women who had these children out of wedlock.
As for the women who get pregnant by professional athletes and other wealthy men, your self respect should not have a dollar value attached to it. With all of the birth control methods available, an honest oops is not very likely. Having a baby with any man, rich or poor is not going to make him love you or marry you if he doesn't want to. Parenting is a tough job with two involved parents. Single parents are constantly fighting an up hill battle because they are trying to do a job that was meant for two people, alone.
When a women gets pregnant by a wealthy man (or any man for that matter), her character comes into question. Does she just want his money or is she trying to keep him? If we are honest, more often than not the answer is yes. In most relationships, the woman tells the man that she is on birth control and he believes her. He trusts that she will use her birth control method properly. If you are a very wealthy man and you like keeping all of your money, there should not be that much trust in the world! The real tragedy is that neither of you handled your business. The woman didn't want to because she wanted to have a baby and the man didn't because it cramped his style of sex.
New research shows that the number of children born out of wedlock has increased across all races. According to Child Trends, in 2009, 41% of all children were born to unmarried women. The percentage of children born out of wedlock by race is as follows:
According to Futureofchildren.org, children born to two married parents are less likely to suffer from a number of social and emotional problems. According to research, if the same number of children lived with their married parents today as did in 1980, about 300,000 fewer children between the ages of 12 and 18 would repeat a grade, 485,000 fewer would be suspended from school, 250,000 fewer would need psychotherapy, 210,000 fewer would be involved in violence, and 30,000 fewer would attempt suicide. In addition, child poverty would be much lower.
There are consequences for your actions, ladies! Your children are at a higher risk of the following problems:
- Repeating a grade
- Being suspended from school
- Being delinquent
- Exhibiting violent behavior
- Needing therapy
- Smoking at a young age
- Thinking of suicide
- Attempting suicide
With our education system in the tank, do we now have an idea as to why our children are failing? Ladies lets do ourselves and our children a favor. Have children after you are married and can provide a stable home for your child. We all want the best for our children, so lets give them a great start by beginning their lives with two married parents.
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