Are you raising an "entitled" child?

I have encountered many adults who act as if the rules of the world don't apply to them.  In the last few years I have encountered children who act as if the world revolves around them.  I wonder if these adults and these children are related.  Could they be the parent and child in one family?

Are you raising an "entitled" child?  Who me, you ask?  Yes you!  There are plenty of you out there because I encounter your children everywhere I go.  The kid who is dancing on the clothing display in Target while you look at him and keep shopping.  Its the kid on the airplane who is kicking my seat.  Instead of making him stop, you tell me that my first round of drinks is on you because your kid will kick my seat.  Your kid sits on the floor under the table instead of sitting in a chair like the other students in class.  The iPhone 4S toting teenager who keeps getting detentions and suspensions in school.  The kid who treats the restaurant booth like its her personal trash can and you don't even try to make her clean up her mess.

Parents when you think its alright to let your child experience life the way he/she sees fit, you are not setting boundaries. When your kid goes to school or is involved in social activities he doesn't understand why he can't do what he wants to do.  Too many parents want to be their child's friend.  They want to be the nice, cool parent.  You want your child to like you, so you indulge him.  If you want to be friends with a child, go hang out with your nieces and nephews.  You can avoid the hard job of parenting.

I don't understand this sense of entitlement that kids have today.  Who told these kids that they can do whatever they want without consequence.  Who told them that they are supposed to get whatever they want, when they want it.  Was it you?  Take my quick non-scientific quiz to determine if you could be raising an "entitled" child.

1) Do you buy your child something, every time you go to the store?

2) Do you allow your child to run around and throw tantrums in a restaurant?

3) Do you allow your child to wear a costume outside of your home, when its not Halloween?

4) Do you allow your child to hit you or disrespect you?


UPDATE:  In my last blog, I stated that I would hopefully be able to post the answers to my questions regarding the selective enrollment high school process.  CPS is still working on getting the answers to my 10 questions.  I will keep you informed of the progress on this issue.  Thanks for reading my blog! Please follow me on twitter:  @goodnbadparents



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  • This is a very informative post. I am proud to say, I am not one of those parents and my children are not either. I run a very, very strict household, lay out my children's expectations and rules. They know their will be a consquence for their behavoir. They call me the meanest mother in the world and make them read this:
    Meanest Mother In The World, author unknown.

    I had the meanest mother in the world. While other kids had candy for breakfast, I had to eat cereal, eggs and toast. While other kids had cakes and candy for lunch, I had a sandwich. As you can guess, my dinner was different from other kids' dinners too.
    My mother insisted on knowing where we were at all times. You'd think we were on a chain gang or something. She had to know who our friends were and what we were doing.
    I am ashamed to admit it, but she actually had the nerve to break the child labor law. She made us work. We had to wash dishes, make the beds and learn how to cook. That women must have stayed awake nights thinking up things for us kids to do. And she insisted that we tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.
    By the time we were teenagers, she was much wiser and our life became more unbearable. None of this tooting the car horn for us to come running; she embarrassed us to no end by insisting that friends come to the door to get us.
    I forgot to mention that most of our friends were allowed to date at the mature age of 12 or 13, but our old fashioned mother refused to let us date until we were 15. She really raised a bunch of squares. None of us was ever arrested for shoplifting or busted for dope.
    And who do you think we have to thank for that? OUR MEAN MOTHER!
    I am trying to raise my children to stand a little straighter and taller and I am secretly tickled to pieces when my children call me mean. I thank God for giving me the meanest mother in the world. Our country doesn't need a good five cent cigar. It needs more mean Mothers like mine.
    Blessings on that wonderful women.

  • In reply to Chef Jody:

    Thanks for sharing this great piece! I will share it with my kids.

  • While I generally agree with what you've written (there are far too many entitled children and you give a great set of examples), I don't necessarily think a child who wears a costume out of the house is entitled. It's a little weird and will garner looks, but there's an element to being creative that I'd hate to stifle.

  • I don't want to stifle creativity either. I have witnessed children who just refuse to wear anything other than a costume so in those instances, I don't think its an issue of creativity.

  • I love this blog.

  • In reply to Tracy A. Stanciel:

    I love this blog, too.

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