Why do teens and tweens dress so provocative? Parents are you ready for the answer? They dress this way because you allow it! Young ladies can't wear provocative clothing if their parents don't buy provocative clothing.
Parents stop caving in to the madness that is supposed to be fashion for teenagers today. Your daughter is not holding a gun to your head, (at least I hope not) demanding that you buy her provocative clothes. Its your money and you choose what to spend it on. Actually, even when it is your daughter's money, you still get to say what she spends it on because she lives under your roof and you are the parent! If your daughter goes shopping with her friends and you are not present, you should inspect her purchases. If there is something that is inappropriate, you should take her back to the store so that she can return it.
I am sick and tired (yes I went there) of looking at young girls showing cleavage and butt cheeks. I'm not going to discuss the camel toe issue. Girls are wearing their clothes so tight that it seems as if they can't breathe. While volunteering at a school, I was selling school uniform shirts to the new students. Every girl wanted to buy a shirt that was one or two sizes too small. I had no problem telling them that I was not going to sell them a shirt that was too small.
Teenagers should look their age. They are not supposed to look sexy. How many of you want a grown man lusting after your daughter because she is dressed provocatively and she looks like a grown woman?
I realize that teenagers can be creative when they get dressed. Girls want to cut jeans into short shorts. They want to cut a slit in their t-shirts so that their cleavage shows. Girls want to cut holes in their jeans to show a little skin or a trace of their underwear. Its hard for them because there are so many ads in magazines and on TV that are displaying provocative clothing. Stores like Abercrombie & Fitch have receive negative press for selling padded bikini tops for young girls. It part of a parents' job to filter and discuss the things that their children are exposed to. Parents need to let their daughters know what is acceptable and what is not.
Teenagers will be teenagers so they may change their clothes after leaving home. I get it! Most teenagers that change clothes and put on make-up after leaving home, at some point will forget to return to their original look before coming home. I believe that if you instill the fear of consequence in your kids, these sneaky episodes will be minimal.
As parents, it is our job to teach our daughters to respect themselves and to demand respect from others. When teenagers dress in a provocative manner, they are inviting disrespect from males young and old.
Don't worry parents, your sons have not been spared. In the future, I will address the issue of boys and young men showing their underwear, eeewwww!