When People Push Your Buttons

If I asked you to give me a list of people that really push your buttons, get your blood boiling, just make you so upset, I bet it wouldn’t take you long to have those names pop out at you. You probably see their faces constantly.


We all have people in our lives that really rub us the wrong way and can change our attitude and the trajectory in our day. I know that I do and it’s a work in progress to change that.

Here are some things to remember to overcome this:

Don’t make it all about you.  I remember hearing the expression “You wouldn’t worry so much about what other people thought of you if you knew how seldom they actually did." Maybe someone is just having a bad day and lashed out at you. It doesn’t make it right but it doesn’t make it about you either. Don’t read between the lines. If someone really bothered you by something they said that you really think was about you, ask them about it.

Hurting people hurt people. This is a "misery loves company "concept. These people are struggling with whatever issues they might have going on and they need our prayers.

Try to understand where they are coming from. Is it possible that your button-pusher might be right? Take a look at yourself and see if they might have a point. If not, start practicing the art of “Letting it go.”

Remember, you might be pushing their buttons too. Is it possible that I could bother them as much as they bother me? Yes, it is. We are far from perfect so maybe extending the same grace and forgiveness is the way to go here.

Don’t play with chemicals.  Some people really can be toxic to you and your life. Avoid them if you can. If you can’t, try to develop skills to not take whatever bait they might be dangling in front of you. Certainly, don’t initiate conflict with them.

Breathe.  Breathe in, breathe out, repeat over and over.

Lean on God. Go to Him when you are struggling with someone really who is getting you going in a bad direction. He hears our prayers and even though things don’t always make sense, sometimes there is a bigger picture in play here.

Spend time in prayer. Go to Him first BEFORE you start venting to your friends or rallying the troops to support you. It’s amazing how much can be accomplished through prayer.

Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your paths straight.


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