Letters to a new mom: all advice isn't good for you...

Dear New Mom,

First and foremost, I must say congratulations and welcome to the wonderful world of motherhood. While it's not always all bells and whistles, it's the most amazing role you can ever take on. I'm sure by now you know that there's nothing anyone could have told you, or warned you about to prepare you for the day that your child entered this world. Though many people will proudly share stories of happiness and horror, often all in one breath, nothing about their experiences can or will prepare you for yours.

When I was expecting , so many told me how I'd feel throughout my pregnancy, what I would and wouldn't need or use once my baby was born and even which milk or diaper brands worked best for their children. In most cases, I found that what worked or didn't work for them, wasn't necessarily the same for me and my little bundle of joy.

I could tell you that you breastfeeding was a nightmare, because it didn't work for me. Or that all baby formulas are the same, because my daughter couldn't hold any of down until she was about six months old. We tried every kind on the shelf because other people and even health professionals advised us that "colicky" babies required a special formula. The truth of the matter was, our baby just threw half of everything she drank up for no reason at all.

I might also tell you that you will absolutely use your changing table all of the time, because we used ours faithfully. Or that your child will never sleep in her crib because I can probably count on my fingers and toes the amount of times my baby slept in hers. So many people gave advice, and while I appreciated it all and took everything into consideration, I quickly learned that all advice wasn't good for me. What I mean by that is, their advice may be great for them, or someone else, but it just may not apply to you and your child.

The best advice I can give to you as a new mom is for you to enjoy every moment of  parenthood. Don't be afraid to learn from your own experiences and know that nobody expects you to be perfect.  Parenthood is something you can't exactly prepare for. It's like a test that you can't quite get a perfect score on, not because you didn't study hard enough, but because it's not possible. Take your time, be patient with the process and go with the flow almost as much as you plan ahead.

We all aim to be the perfect parents when in reality we know perfection doesn't exist. As a mom, it's only natural to want the best for your children and the best way to do that, is to be the best you you can be. I promise your child will always love you for that!





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