SAHM...the job I never want

SAHM...the job I never want

There's been a lot of talk in the media lately about Stay-at-Home Moms (SAHM) who are now looking to go back into the workforce. At one point or another, these mothers decided to stay at home with the children and be mothers and/or wives around the clock. I tip my hat off to them, two or three times actually. Parenting is a full time job regardless of if you work outside the home, from home or not at all. Your children are your number one priority-or at least they should be. For us working moms, that means that we may have to take a sick or personal day to handle business, leave early or even work from home if need be.

As much as I love my daughter, I really couldn't see myself being a SAHM for so many reasons. For one, I love what I do way too much to ever give up on it, but more importantly, I simply don't have the patience for it. And I mean this in the most loving, heartfelt way possible, I'm not cut from that cloth. Go-2-baby is a great kid- well in my opinion at least-but, she's also a toddler who likes to run, jump and flip,, throw temper tantrums and make huge messes. I just can't see myself running around behind her 24-7 without losing my sanity, or my identity even. I've heard many SAHM's complain about wanting to find things to do for themselves, something that makes them feel like they serve a purpose outside of the home.

For some, the SAHM lifestyle works perfectly for them, as it provides all of the fulfillment they could ever ask for in life. And there are those who simply don't have the option to stay at home if they wanted to. Some of us simply can't just "opt-out" of the workforces. I happen to be one of those women who really couldn't be an SAHM, but would never hope to be. There's something about being a career woman that makes me feel like I'm doing so much more for my child. Not just financially, but by providing an example of what she can grow up to accomplish outside of the home. I can't wait until my daughter is old enough to understand and appreciate the work I do. I also can't wait for the opportunity to bring her along on business travel so that she can see first-hand what type of moves her mommy makes.

I don't knock the SAHM lifestyle at all, because I admire them for being the strong women you need to be to play that role, it's just not for me. My biggest challenge at this point is finding the perfect work-life balance. I'm thankful to be with a company that understands and respects that we all have some type of life outside of the office. This is extremely important for parents. Go-2-baby is young now, so I don't have to worry as much now. As she gets older, I will have to cut down on staying in the office late so many nights a week. I refuse to be the mom who missed out on ballet recitals, field trips and parent teacher conferences. That's one major advantages SAHM's have, they get to be there for everything. Your kids appreciate the times when you are there with and for them, but will linger on the times you aren't for a lifetime.  Just like  I would never dream of being a SAHM, being a never-at-home mom is also not an option for Go-2-mommy.

 

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  • Agreed.

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    In reply to Kim Z Dale:

    Thanks for reading Kim!

  • I am in complete agreement with you.

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    In reply to Kathy Mathews:

    Kathy thanks for stopping by to read my blog!

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