Stress is something that we all live with, but for those involved in a job search after the loss of a job or a dead end career; it can be overwhelming leading to depression and despondent behavior that makes it appear as if nothing is going your way.
It is difficult for friends and family to deal with you or even help you when you are stressed out and down after the loss of a job and a slow hiring g process that is so common these days.
So, how do you deal with your stress and what can you do to help you help yourself to make it through these times?
First of all, stress is not something that is going away. There are no stress free lives. We all have some level of self-imposed stress. Much of stress has to do with how we handle our stress and what we do to make a less than perfect situation much better, so we can focus on positive change instead of getting buried in our negativity.
Women may have it worse since they tend to be the caretakers and are so bad at saying No. Sometimes the stress of an impending divorce or a loss of job or a sick parent or child can send us into a tizzy leaving us depressed and despondent. I have been there. Flushed vodka into your system, hoping the pain would go away, is not a good solution.
Here are some tips to help you through your stressful times:
- Talk about your stress to others who will listen. This is the time to get together with supportive friends who rally around you. Stay away from negative friends who make you feel worse. You already feel bad enough about your life, so spend time with friends who are positive and supportive.
- Take time out for rest in between your job search. Slow down as not to go into overload mode. You need to give yourself a break every few hours and take a break. I usually go for a walk by myself and try to restore some balance in my brain to help me better deal with the stress.
- Make sure to eat healthy and take my vitamins. Maintaining a balanced healthy diet is imperative for our health and to manage stress. When we are stressed we often eat too many sugars and carbs. Limit them and eat more veggies and whole grain. They will help keep your serotonin level in balance. Drink lots of water to flush out your system.
- Start an exercise program or maintain the one you already have and even step it up. Not only will you feel better but you will look better and feel better about yourself.
- Plan a long weekend to a place you love and can afford to go. It may be a drive to the Indiana Dunes or Lake Geneva. Just get out of your neighborhood and go on a short adventure. It doesn’t have to be expensive.
- Remind yourself to be thankful for all you do have rather than focusing on what I don't have.
- Crank up your favorite music and drift into a happy space. Music can feed your soul.
Getting enough sleep, time to yourself, exercise and connecting with people you like and who support you is critical to keeping stress at bay. Make sure you don't hold on to anger because this leads to depression.
Stress is a killer. You need to make sure to manage it.