Over the course of a number of jobs and careers, I have been forced to leave a company or have been fired. It happens to most people whether they see it coming or not. I remember each time I was laid off as if it was yesterday! It always seems to happen to me in the dead of winter when I am already depressed. Most times I was given a two week severence and the advice to go to the unemployment office, of which, I have done twice with no regrets.
Losing a job is always a disturbing event, especially when you don't expect it. We're filled with anger, remorse, anxiety, and fear when it happens. Yet, with bills mounting and monthly expenses continuing, we don't have much time to work through the grief process and heal ourselves.
I spoke with a highly respected grief specialist and industrial psychologist, Dr. Richard E. Augspurger, for tips on how to deal with the loss of a job and what he recommends someone can do to ease the pain.
Dr. Augspurger says that first of all you need to talk to your immediate family and closest friends upon the loss of a job and let them know you are looking for a new one. These are the members you trust to act as your support system.
Step number two is to describe to persons who have busines contacts exactly what you would like to do in your next role, and ask them for contact information of a referal or two.
Thirdly, he suggests that you acknowledge to yourself and trusted persons what you are feeling and thinking about the loss. This step is vitally important to do or it will complicate your interviewing success. Then upgrade your 1-2 page resume to be a strong and succinct summary of your accomplishments and translate responsibilities into action items. Share your resume with a professional.
Lastly, Dr. Augspurger recommends using self-talk to tell yourself and believe that you can land a good new job within six months with a comparable compensation. He suggests that you consider using a career coach to maximize your skills, especially in this slow economy.
I wish I would have had this information when I was laid off from a radio rep position I held years ago. Instead, I walked home in sub-below zero temperaures numb from the firing and headed straight to a bar where I proceeded to drink too many martinis! This didn't help heal me, it just gave me a killer hangover the next day! Dr. Richard Augspurger can be reached at 312/405-4021 or www.TalentMan.biz. Thanks Dr. Augspurger, we're all feeling better already!