As far as I can tell, Tiger Mom, Amy Chua, thinks parenting is a role in which the parent intimidates and cruelly punishes children until they produce an outcome that can be considered best in class in a particular skill in comparison with others.
Teens need meaningful connection with themselves and others. They need to know they are valued for themselves, and not simply valued for the outcomes they produce. It has been a decade since we have figured out that fear and intimidation in the workplace results in unhappy workers who express that through sabotage of both process and outcomes.
If we now organize our businesses around merging personal and professional vision and values to produce triple bottom lines - how is it we think children should be motivated by getting A's in school - and in fact, A's in subjects that may be clearly irrelevant in a few years? In addition, what about the social and emotional intelligence that has been clearly found to be the determining factor in successful leadership in this century?
I recently learned that to train dogs to point to the prey that hunters then kill, they put a noose around the dog's neck, throw a bird in front of him, and hang him nearly to death if he tries to touch the bird. Any creature will avoid pain to do what is required of the torturer.
That is vastly different than helping a child to explore and discover life, support her to find out who she is, and then through support, teach and model discipline to develop and contribute her gifts. That is much harder than Ms Chua's warden's job. That job is called "parenting".
So, Ms Chua, the questions is:"What is the value of your daughter's life?" If the answer is: "What she produces in competition with others so she can earn the right to self-esteem and gain the approval of others who happen to care about what she is good at", I suggest you bone up on the impact of teen suicide.
Anyone else want to chime in here?