As you practice these four steps, your ability to diffuse situations both for yourself and others increases, and so does your power.
Often in Readings, I see that someone feels overpowered by another. When you experience someone as "overpowering", that means that you have left your power behind somewhere and that's why the other person looks so big to you. You leave power behind when you feel fear and determine you are smaller than someone else or a situation. When another person looks "scary", it means he is scared and is covering it up with anger - and often self righteousness.
Feeling that you must hold it together or defend yourself or stand up to him comes from a belief that you are in trouble - so you will attract trouble so that you can hold it together, defend or stand up to someone.
Here are more productive responses: