How to make a man want you. How to get a man to love you. How to win him over. How to give your man great head.
Why is it that there are so many articles trying to teach us how to get and keep a man? Is this really something that has to be learned?
If it takes this much reading.. and this many games to get a man to fall in love with you.... then no thanks.
I want a man to fall in love with me on his own... without me pulling out my bag of tricks. I want him to fall in love with me, the girl inside a woman's body. The girl who hates to do dishes and will sometimes hide the dirty ones in the oven if company is coming over. The girl who has a closet full of clothes thrown in a big pile because she hates hanging them up. The girl who will cook a meal, but thinks of it as work, not joy. The girl who loves to get texts from him several times a day, even if its just a smiley face. The girl who hates action movies and will watch disney movies time and time again. You get the point.
If I pretend to be something I am not, and he falls madly in love with me, then what will happen when I get tired of putting on a pretense? Get tired of playing the game? These articles also say don't be needy. Don't make him think you need him. Aren't we all needy? We are born needy. We just learn to hide the neediness and pretened we are super cool to just walk this life alone with our cool friends and not caring if we have someone special to hold at night. When deep down, that is exactly what we all want. We just hide it, and bury it deep maybe because of being hurt in the past.
Someone special just broke up with me. He said he can't be monogamous and he knows it is hurting me. That's what he said. He needs time and space. So I have been reading articles to see what the heck that means. And all I have learned is that men and women play games with each other. It's more exciting than getting along and going to rent a movie every saturday night. It's easier to run and start over with someone new for a few months because you get to be whoever you want to be for awhile. You don't have to be the real you and answer to anyone or show them your "dirty laundry". I get it. It's easier.
I wish people would quit playing games. I know it's super exciting to chase and be chased. But ultimately if you keep doing this, a lot of people, maybe even yourself, are going to get hurt.
If you are not interested in having a relationship, then you should be careful of the words and actions you throw out there. Date date date. All you want. Have your cake. Eat if up. But don't spend too much time on one piece if you know that deep within you the need to sample all the baked goods has to be fulfilled.
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