Posts in category "Love and Relationships"

Shan Tell 'em Has A New Home!

  Hello everyone, In the midst of getting prepared for the end of the world, (lol) I haven’t been writing as often as I would like to. But there is good news! I have a new home… You can find and subscribe to all of my posts old and new at www.shantelljamison.com along with some... Read more »

Dear Black Female: Why Are You Settling?

Dear Black Female: Why Are You Settling?
As I scroll down my Facebook mini-feed, I notice a trend. My white friends are throwing statuses, pictures, etc. up of them getting either engaged or married, while my black friends are discussing their “baby daddies” referring to themselves as “wifey” and living with their significant others with children. If I were to put a... Read more »

This Just In: Relationships Are A Full Time Job

This Just In: Relationships Are A Full Time Job
It was almost 3 years ago, and I faced the toughest decision of my life at the time. I was involved with a guy     whom I loved very much, but honestly the relationship became too much work for the both of us. I remember the day when I knew that it was over. I had... Read more »
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The Lies We Keep & The Secrets We Tell

The Lies We Keep & The Secrets We Tell
It’s pretty much impossible to tell the truth the entire time. Lies always have a way of penetrating one’s psyche. First, invading that of the one who tells the lie to the point in which they believe that lying is the best decision. Sometimes the lie slowly morphs into their own truth, one that makes... Read more »

A Bitch Called Temptation

A Bitch Called Temptation
“Why everything that gotta be bad make me feel so good?” Kanye West For the most part, I’m very capable of not giving into temptation. I think about all of the consequences and repercussions of my actions and scare the hell out of myself into doing the right thing. While that works, I sometimes question... Read more »

Free For The Summer, but Free From What?

Free For The Summer, but Free From What?
It was May 2004. I had just wrapped up my freshman year of college and was back home for summer break at a friend’s party. We ran out of juice for the libations and had to take a quick trip to the local grocery store. That’s when I met him.  He went to school with... Read more »
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Slow Down: Your Heart Will Thank You

Slow Down: Your Heart Will Thank You
When it comes to relationships, it’s easy to jump in heart first. But, as I outlined in my last post “Slow Down So I Know It’s Real,” that often isn’t the most effective way to build a long lasting healthy relationship. I received a few requests as to how to make sure that you’re taking... Read more »

Emotional Walls: Noone Should Have to Break Them Down But You

Emotional Walls: Noone Should Have to Break Them Down But You
“Some people put walls up, not to keep people out, but to see who cares enough to knock them down.” -Unknown Put the above quote as your Facebook status and I guarantee you’ll get at least a dozen “likes.” You won’t get any from me though. I couldn’t disagree more with the phrase.  It gives... Read more »

She's Not A Gold Digger, She Just Knows What She Deserves

She's Not A Gold Digger, She Just Knows What She Deserves
Whenever I write, it’s always with the intention of creating a better understanding for people through situations that I’ve either witnessed, obsessed over in my head or been in myself. This one is no different; and it actually comes from a place of frustration. Frustration due to assumptions. Frustration at some people’s lack of desire... Read more »
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From Ex Girlfriend to Jumpoff

From Ex Girlfriend to Jumpoff
As I drove down Lake Shore Drive, a topic that a popular radio DJ was discussing caught my attention. She shared a recent experience about her ex-fiancee who is now married to someone else. She began to describe their relationship, and in a nutshell how it didn’t work out for various reasons. What caught my... Read more »