No matter how hard we try, we will never know everything there is to know about fitness and weight loss. We will never have the perfect answer. We will never truly know what the best option is. All we'll know is what we want our ultimate goal to be, and we'll know that gut wrenching feeling of being uncomfortable in our own skin until we reach it. No one will warn us of the challenges we'll encounter, because things may pop up that we'll have no control over. No one will be able to tell us what parts will actually end up being easier than we thought. We have to be willing to take the journey, ourselves, and take that leap of faith... keep trying... never give-up. What would I tell my younger self about this process if I had the chance?
Dear Younger Mel,
I know that you are unhappy with how you look right now. You try to hide your curves under long, blowsy Stevie Nicks-esq skirts, you wear a lot of extra make-up in hopes that it's making you look as pretty as you desire to be, and the thought of even talking to the opposite sex is out because you automatically assume that no one will ever be interested. You've had "fat brain" ever since you were a little girl; far before you should've ever been worrying about such things. Self esteem has never been a strong suit. I want to tell you something... you are far more beautiful than you even realize, and you are going to inspire lots of people.
I don't want you to consider yourself a failure for not finding the answer yet. I'm sorry that those diet pills didn't work for you the way that they said. The important thing is that you learned the dangers of them and you can help educate others through your own experience. I'm sorry that those little peppermint drops for your water didn't work for you the way that they said, but that is a learning curve as well. Do you know how many times Thomas Edison had to try before he found the proper filament for inventing the light bulb? Just look at how illuminated the world is now! Just think, that is going to be you! You are going to light up, and you are going to help others find their light as well!
Exercise and nutrition are the answer, but I don't really need to tell you that. You are going to figure it out on your own. You know what else? It's not going to be as hard as you think, actually. A lot of the foods you eat right now... well, you aren't even going to want to touch them in the future! One more thing... you are going to be teaching others how to lose weight! Crazy, right? So, don't give up, buttercup!
The struggles won't end with hitting your goal weight. Life will continue to throw you curve balls. Weight will go back up. Weight will go back down. But as long as you adopt a winner mindset, you won't let anything stop you! I believe in you, and I know you will win as long as you set your mind to it and work it! Share your struggles and your journey, because you will inspire others who are experiencing the same things as you... and they will be your support in return.
You are a very strong woman and I want you to look at all of the amazing things you've already accomplished. Well, it's only going to get better, I promise. You are going to dig yourself out of this hole. You will lose the weight. You will turn your life around. Most people fail because they quit. As long as you don't quit, you will succeed. Go get it, girl!
PS - Feel free to keep wishing for that pony ;-)
Sincerely, Older Mel
You may wonder why I didn't just give the exact formula to younger me. You know why? I'd be afraid that if I did, I wouldn't believe myself and then younger me would end up on a completely different path. Admit it, you are stubborn. We are all stubborn. A lot of times, when people tell us what to do we want to do the exact opposite. So, I'm not going to tell younger me exactly what to do. Sometimes, all people need is the hope that their dreams will come true and the support of a friend to help them get there. I'd be friend to younger me. Cheering myself on, and even applauding failures.
I want you to take out a pen and a piece of paper. Start drafting a note from future you to current you. I want you to write this note to yourself from yourself when you've accomplished your goals. Share your excitement with younger you, and be sure to tell yourself that it's going to be ok, that you are going to achieve your goals. Tell yourself how beautiful you are! Focus on all of the positive things about yourself and be your own cheerleader. You can do this. You will accomplish your goals!