Posts tagged "children"

Surviving Abuse is Only the Beginning: Double Victimization

“Get over it.” “It wasn’t that bad.” “It was worse for me.” “You just want pity.” “You’re a liar.” After surviving a childhood filled with abandonment, neglect and abuse at the hands of my family members and their partners, I thought I’d seen it all. I mean really, after you’re forced to live with a... Read more »

A Beaten Girl, Silenced Neighbor, and Broken System: Chicago Is Failing Our Children

A Beaten Girl, Silenced Neighbor, and Broken System: Chicago Is Failing Our Children
My mother stood over me as I lay quivering in my small bed. “Turn over,” she growled, with the belt poised. When I refused she said, “If you don’t turn over, I will hit you on your face.” I was no older than seven, and I had no choice. As the hard leather of the... Read more »

Hadiya Pendleton Is Killed in Chicago Days After Performing at Obama Inauguration

This letter is by my friend and colleague, Tamara Kaldor. Dear Chicago Parents, President Obama, Governor Quinn & Mayor Emanuel, This morning, I awoke to the news that Hadiya Pendleton, a 15 year-old Chicago girl, had been murdered by a spray of bullets in a neighborhood park. Only days earlier, she had performed at President Obama’s inauguration ceremony.... Read more »
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I Blame Nancy & Peter Lanza for Sandy Hook, Though I Know It's Wrong

Like just about every parent with a TV or Internet connection, I’ve been searching for answers as to why a 20-year-old named Adam Lanza murdered 26 adults and children in an elementary school in Newtown, Connecticut on December 14. I’ve blamed the NRA and the monstrosity of a gun lobby. I’ve blamed our State and... Read more »

Mommy Rides a Big Wave of Self-Loathing, Even in Paradise

Mommy Rides a Big Wave of Self-Loathing, Even in Paradise
Last night, at a beautiful Italian restaurant, I started an impromptu game with my hubby and daughter. It was called “what I love about you.” First, it was hubby’s turn. My daughter and I went back and forth, listing his many qualities: fantastic cooking skills, a gentle demeanor, and never-ending patience for the two feisty gals... Read more »

Chad (Ochocinco) Johnson: When Abuse Hits Home

Chad (Ochocinco) Johnson: When Abuse Hits Home
I’m more than slightly embarrassed to admit I’ve watched the show Basketball Wives here and there while battling boredom on the gym treadmill. That’s where I first saw Evelyn Lozada, a beautiful and hotheaded bombshell from Miami who fell in love with the professional football player, Chad Johnson. I know Chad Johnson from his showboating... Read more »
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Chicago Crime Surges: Is It Time for Families to Leave?

Chicago Crime Surges: Is It Time for Families to Leave?
As I gaze out of my apartment window here in Chicago wondering where, and not when, the next random shooting will take place (23 last night alone), I can’t help but recall a quote by Martin Niemöller that graces the entrance to the Holocaust Museum in D.C. “First they came for the socialists, and I did not... Read more »

Should She Leave an Unhappy Marriage? Moms Weigh In.

Should She Leave an Unhappy Marriage?  Moms Weigh In.
I’m constantly surprised by readers’ reactions to the real-life stories we share on Families in the Loop, and this week was no exception. The hot topic this time was whether a mom in an unhappy marriage should leave her husband. He is the sole breadwinner of the family and has already proved that he’ll make... Read more »

Heel, Chicago Dog Owners... We're Taking Back the Sidewalk

Heel, Chicago Dog Owners... We're Taking Back the Sidewalk
Another day, another walk to school with my daughter, and yet another near miss with a dog that sees my child as a fabulous new chew toy. I love dogs. I truly do.  When my grandma passed away years ago, it was the family dog more than any other breathing creature who provided the solace,... Read more »
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