Posts tagged "abuse"

Surviving Abuse is Only the Beginning: Double Victimization

“Get over it.” “It wasn’t that bad.” “It was worse for me.” “You just want pity.” “You’re a liar.” After surviving a childhood filled with abandonment, neglect and abuse at the hands of my family members and their partners, I thought I’d seen it all. I mean really, after you’re forced to live with a... Read more »

A Beaten Girl, Silenced Neighbor, and Broken System: Chicago Is Failing Our Children

A Beaten Girl, Silenced Neighbor, and Broken System: Chicago Is Failing Our Children
My mother stood over me as I lay quivering in my small bed. “Turn over,” she growled, with the belt poised. When I refused she said, “If you don’t turn over, I will hit you on your face.” I was no older than seven, and I had no choice. As the hard leather of the... Read more »

Chris Brown's Brawl with Frank Ocean and What It Means for Rihanna

Chris Brown's Brawl with Frank Ocean and What It Means for Rihanna
Rihanna and Chris Brown, the man who practically killed her right before the Grammys in 2009, are back together. She’s proclaiming to the world that their reconciliation is her decision and she knows exactly what she’s getting herself into. Like many women who go back to their abusers, Rihanna says it’s different this time around. Based... Read more »
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Holidays & The Broken Family: When Thanksgiving Is Goodbye

Holidays & The Broken Family: When Thanksgiving Is Goodbye
The holiday: Thanksgiving. The year: 2002, three months after I had started dating the guy who would become my husband. I had taken the Amtrak train from NYC to DC for what I’d hoped would be a peaceful day with my mother, brother, and his family. But, as always, I was apprehensive. For our entire relationship, things rarely... Read more »

My High School Reunion & Why I Can't Go Back, Yet

My High School Reunion & Why I Can't Go Back, Yet
My high school reunion is this weekend and I’m not going. Sure, there’s a part of me that wants to see all of the old familiar faces, find out what everyone’s been up to (in a non-Fakebook-y sort of way) and feel proud, even if I never mention them, of my recent personal and professional... Read more »