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Today is my 7th wedding anniversary, should I really beware the 7-year itch?

Today is my 7th wedding anniversary, should I really beware the 7-year itch?
I remember seeing the classic fifties film "The Seven Year Itch" and being terrified of marriage as a little girl.  I thought it terrible that happy newlyweds had a chance that they wouldn't be like the Huxtables and the Bradys if they couldn't survive their seventh year of marriage.  Like hotels and buildings that skip the thirteenth floor just to be safe than sorry to avoid any hocus pocus, I never wanted to experience the 7-year itch. I thought I'd skip marriage entirely and never have to worry about such things.  I guess that's why they say, "Never say never," because not only have I already been married and divorced, today marks the first day of my seventh year of my second marriage. You know what that means...
It's day 1 of the dreaded day where you must take precautions not to fall into the proverbial pit of the 7-year itch. The year marriage couples stray. The year of boredom.
As silly as it sounds, there is all kinds of information on ways to avoid the "itch," which is a burning desire  to do something exhilarating and new and fresh because by the time you get to the 7th year, marriage may have become humdrum and a bore, so like an itch that you can't seem to scratch alone, you need someone new to get that certain spot. I'm so glad that's not my story. One good thing we had working on our behalf is that we thought today was day 1 of the 8th year. Don't ask me when or where, but somehow, we thought we already survived the 7th year...and we love it. We woke up today just as happy and refreshed, calm and relaxed, glowing at one another that we survived what others say is "the big one"...which got me to thinking.
What if we looked at all of life's major scares the same way?
I don't know how we were duped into this kind of thinking as adults, but oftentimes, we are afraid of "boogey men" that don't exist. We hear sayings and slogans and adopt them as truths for ourselves, but it doesn't have to be. You can adopt your own philosophy and truth. You don't have to be afraid of life. For example, as a fitness instruuctor, we've been taught, you are what you eat. Everyone has heard that. But no one really stresses the more important one, which is:
You are what you think.
I know people mean well, but I don't buy into all of the world's superstitions. While I don't love having a broom touch my feet, I don't believe I'm going to be cursed for life and have bad luck if it does. Forrest Gump said it best, "Sh*t happens." I also sit my purse on the floor, which drives some people crazy! But not me.  They say "A woman who sits her purse on the floor will never have money." I beg to differ. I believe a woman--or any person for that matter--who doesn't get, and stay, on your grind is the person who will be broke. It's not where I sit my purse that dictates my wealth. It's me getting off my ass that determines that. Where my purse sits is inconsequential. I'm not thrilled about black cats, broken mirrors, and all other forms of witchcraft foolishness, but I also don't let these things run my life.  It amazes me how spiritual or intellectual people can be, and yet, they buy into and believe silly BS. [caption id="attachment_3420" align="alignright" width="225"]I am proud to be a happily married woman. I am proud to be a happily married woman.[/caption] I just don't. I know that the sanctity of my marriage is determined by how I honor God and love my husband, and how I love God and honor my husband. If I can get and keep those two things together, I won't have much to fear, whether it's my 7th or 17th year. I know some people really worry about avoiding that 7-year itch. I'm just so glad it isn't me.
Happy Anniversary to my wonderful young and brilliant husband who keeps me on my toes with his incessant desire to make me happy, healthy, and wealthy, by any means necessary. We are the proud parents of two amazing twin daughters God gave us in his and hers models, plus our other four you gladly welcomed into your heart and life when you fell in love with me. It takes some kind of man not to be swayed by an 11-year age difference, and all the other many challenges we have faced and overcome. I know God has great things in store for our marriage and I look forward to 77 more years together.  Thank you for loving me through sickness and health and all the other roller coaster rides through life that we take together.  They say this is the year that couples dip off, and I'm so glad that God has given us everything we need to make and keep each other happy. You are My King. Love, The Mrs.
Thank you for sharing in our love together on this day...

Gay Christian mom blogger Glennon Doyle gives me hope

Gay Christian mom blogger Glennon Doyle gives me hope
Social media is all abuzz with the latest story about the Christian mom blogger, Glennon Doyle, and her engagement to retired soccer star Abby Wambach.  I’m not a soccer fan. Never heard of Abby Wambach. I’m also not familiar with Glennon Doyle’s blog. The story caught my eye because of its title in the Washington... Read more »

Dr. King, a visionary and gay rights activist before his time

Dr. King, a visionary and gay rights activist before his time
We all know, respect, and love Dr. King for the legacy he left us as a civil rights activist. He was a visionary and a man of love and compassion waaaaaaaaay ahead of his time.  Although he never spoke about gay rights, he preached about God’s love and equality for ALL people. So I have a spoiler... Read more »
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A second chance at virginity, what a joy that would be!

A second chance at virginity, what a joy that would be!
I feel sorry for today’s youth because no one really speaks about the importance of virginity, and is it any wonder the way every song and television program glamorizes sex.  Kids today don’t stand a chance.  I wish I had a second chance at virginity. I think I would have liked to hold out until... Read more »

#BlackLivesMatter argument rears its head in my church

#BlackLivesMatter argument rears its head in my church
#BlackLivesMatter, the hashtag that can either show your loyalty or make others think you’re a faithless sellout. Never would I have categorized myself as the latter, but this is exactly what happened to me when the #BlackLivesMatter issue showed up in my church’s Praise Team private Facebook group. One of our members, my sister with... Read more »

Praying grandmothers, with love and power like no other

Praying grandmothers, with love and power like no other
If you don’t know about the power of praying grandmothers, then you definitely need to keep reading, because praying grandmothers can change the world. They are women with strength unlike others because they can make you the best meal you ever had, discipline you in love whether words or deeds, or find a peppermint buried... Read more »
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Christians and social media: Would Jesus "follow" you?

Christians and social media: Would Jesus "follow" you?
Four little letters have the power to change and convict the hardest heart and wildest behavior: WWJD? What would Jesus do? This catch-all question was great for reminding believers to be cautious of their actions and their words.  Now that social media is mainstream for our daily life, a great question for believers could be:... Read more »

Christians and the same-sex marriage ruling

Christians and the same-sex marriage ruling
At the expense of being asked to step out of leadership at my church, or who knows what else, I’m going to voice my opinion on the Supreme Court’s ruling on same-sex marriage.  I want to say that it “amazes me” how close-minded people are, but that would not be true because I don’t find... Read more »

Things I'd like to tell fat people...Lord forgive me!

Things I'd like to tell fat people...Lord forgive me!
I know it sounds terrible. It’s that dreaded “F” word: FAT–a word no one wants to be called but a descriptor we use nonetheless. Truth is truth, I don’t like the word either, and although it’s not my style to be rude or crass or mean, yet, like anybody else, I get tired of people... Read more »
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Breaking it off with my fat friend is hard to do on Mother's Day weekend, but it must be done!

Breaking it off with my fat friend is hard to do on Mother's Day weekend, but it must be done!
That’s it. I’m done. I have tried to maintain our friendship for all of my life, but I can’t any longer. My fat friend must go! The bottom line is, she is just unhealthy for me. Every time I get myself on track to work my fitness program or eat right or try new things,... Read more »
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    I am a wife and mother blessed to have six daughters who fill my home with love and laughter. My passion is writing and teaching, but most especially inspiring people to live healthy lives in my faith-filled fitness classes. My dream is to have my own faith and fitness TV show where people from all the world collectively join together on our "temple" building project of enjoying optimal health. I am a certified group fitness instructor by the Aerobics and Fitness Association of America (AFAA), and earned graduate degrees in Writing from DePaul University, in addition to a degree in Exercise Science and Health Promotion from the California University of Pennsylvania. I have seen and experienced the hand of God work and move in my life, and consider it an honor and blessing to be saved to serve.

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