Facebook. The place to go and post pictures, keep up with family, and reconnect with old classmates. It's the all around new form of communication and socialization with any and everyone. It's all fun and games until it becomes toxic. In many ways, that is what Facebook has become for me.
When Facebook first came out, I was slow to join because I honestly didn't see the point. You go on there and just look at what other people are doing? Why do I need to do that? After years of watching the entire ABC lineup of soaps and knowing more about Erika Kane, Dorian Lord, and Luke and Laura Spencer than I did my own family--one day, I vowed never to watch again. This was long before they'd cancelled the shows and just like that, what once held me hostage everyday all day, ended. I freed myself. It seemed ridiculous to me to just sit and scroll and look at what other people do all day long on my phone or computer on Facebook. What a waste of time!
Well, after being annoyed by more and more people reprimanding me like I was an alien or something by asking me, "You're not on Facebook?!?!" I gave in and joined.
At first it was fun. It really is nice to keep up with family who live in other states and to get reconnected with old classmates, but my God, I must admit, I waste alot of my life's precious time fooling around doing nothing on Facebook.
I'd venture to guess, I'm not alone.
I often base my rationale for my continued use of social media because I have a home-based business and Facebook is definitely a great way to post pictures of successes I've had or info I want to share by capturing people's attention. When it comes to this, Facebook is God's gift of free advertising. You can't beat it. But it's a whole different ballgame when you end up on the wrong side of a post, or knee deep in Facebook drama.
Unfortunately, I have experienced many of the negative sides of Facebook. Maybe you have too.
Ever said or done something, and then somehow, it becomes a friend or family member's post but they don't say your name, but you know it's directed toward you? Or, have you vaguely posted something about one thing or person only to be accused of directly posting it to someone else? Both scenarios are actually the same occurrence flipped one way then another, and both are draining and emotionally exhausting.
In real time with real human interaction, I hate passive/aggressive behavior. I detest when you ask people, "Are you okay?" and they answer, "yes," but they walk around slamming things or rolling their eyes and their energy is just funky. Just say what's wrong with you already, but for goodness' sake, don't play mind games!
But it happens all the time on Facebook.
One thing that really drives me nuts is when family members and friends block you. So, in my case, I recently had it out with a family member (actually, they had it out with me and I just sat there and took it like a champ out of some sick form of respect), and since then, they have blocked me on Facebook. Now that's fine. Everybody has a right to be "friends" with whomever they choose, but what really gets my goat is that they then continue liking and commenting on my children's posts. So, it makes me think, "Okay, let me get this straight. You don't want to be friends with me but you are talking to my children?!?!" Am I the only one who finds this sick and alarming?
I'm concerned about the emotional stress that Facebook causes people--and most importantly--what it is doing to me. This is why I think I might need Facebook therapy.
Am I the only one who notices that there are family members who will "like" everything your kids do or pictures that include your kids but don't "like" any pictures of you by yourself? WTF is that?!?! Or, there are people who will interact with your kids and tag other family members but won't even tag you as the parent? How crazy is that? Am I alone in this?
I can't even process the whole "side jab" way of fighting on Facebook with the posts and pictures that seem to be directed toward you with comments that describe you but then when you call people on it and ask about it, they are like, "Oooooohhh nooooo. You thought that was directed at YOU? Girl, I was talking about somebody else." Then they take it down.
It drives me crazy!!!
Mind you, I am a strong, confident, articulate, passionate, spiritual woman who really and truly has neither the time nor desire to even think this hard about Facebook. This is why I think I need Facebook therapy.
Maybe I'll go post a picture of me thinking about therapy, or a picture of couches with a motivational phrase of empowerment over it, or ask for recommendations for Facebook therapists near me, if such people even exist.
Or maybe I should just nix the whole thing like I did the soaps.
About me: I'm a wife and mom of six daughters known as "The Fitness Evangelist" because of my ability to take ordinary fitness classes and turn them into worshipful events. I also help people with their health and fitness goals any where in the world through my business with Total Life Changes. For more information about me, you can visit my website at http://elanainspires.com or go directly to my TLC website for product information http://totallifechanges.com/elanainspires.
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