Do You Want to Be Dominated, or Do You Want Direction

Do you want to be dominated, or do you want direction? This is the question that I ask myself when I hear a woman complain about the “curious” actions of a significant other.

Women are dominated day in and day out. Men overwhelm them with demands and threats constantly without offering anything of positive substance.

I must pose this tough question. If a man cannot provide these necessary qualities – love, affection, stability, respect and loyalty why would you allow him to be the dominant force in your life?

Do you want to be dominated, or do you want direction?

To EARN the title of boyfriend, or whatever title you place on him, you must require the five necessary things – love, affection, stability, respect and loyalty that I spoke of previously. If there is a need to explain why each of these qualities is important, there is no reason for you to read further. I will repeat to you what I hear all of the time “you got it!” Go directly to love’s prison. DO NOT PASS GO! DO NOT COLLECT your engagement ring, or whatever is your impetus in continuing with your current relationship status. I seriously do not want to waste your time.

The Green Day song "Dominated Love Slave" (lyrics here) is for you!

You want to be dominated, not be given direction.

To the rest of the female population I must ask – do you want to be dominated, or do you want direction?

Men, we screw this up all the time. What I mean is we assume that a woman’s “damsel in distress” act cannot be confused as a cry for help. Most times, it is a cry for attention. The same can be said for the “independent woman”, the “lonely heart”, the “downtrodden soul” and the “overlooked housewife.” Each type of woman comes with their share of vulnerability. Just because a woman shows her vulnerability, it does not mean that we (men) should take advantage of it by dominating them. We must find a way to use it as a tool for direction.

Women, when you give us an advantage we will run with it if you allow us to. While it might be cute to have a man on your arm, do you want to be dominated, or do you want direction?

Men, we can be too dominant at times. We spend way too much energy on asking a woman “where are you going”, “what took you so long to call me back” and “who was that you were just talking to”.

At times the roles will reverse as women will do this also. It is sickening to hear the “interview” as I call it. The “interview” is a series of questions that are asked for the sole purpose of seeking out any answers that may signal inappropriate behavior. Women look frightened during the “interview”, while men break into cold sweats. Is it necessary?

Do you want to be dominated, or do you want direction?

Ask yourself that question before you embark on the journey of a healthy relationship. Tell the person whom you hope will turn out to be your soul mate that there is a difference between the two. If I have to explain what direction is to you at this point, we have already lost each other in translation. Direction requires five necessary things – love, affection, stability, respect and loyalty. Without those five things, you are lost in love’s prison.

Do you want to be dominated, or do you want direction?

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