In Newtown, Connecticut, random violence ruined the lives of very young, impressionable minds. Among the 27 deceased were 20 children. I am certain that countless other children will have scars that will remain with them for the rest of their lives. The violence hits close to home because those minds were similar to the ones that frolic under our roofs. We as parents may want their mayhem to stop, yet without it, how would our lives be?
Would our lives be as empty as that of the shooter?
Adam Lanza, the suspected shooter must have lived an empty life. After the massacre, he turned the gun on himself. He could not have cared who or how many other lives he would destroy while going on his rampage.
We could have prevented the tragic incident. When I say we, I mean humankind. The people that were around Mr. Lanza could have loved him up and made sure that he did not feel as if he was a victim himself. I will safely assume that once the reports start filtering out, they (people close to him) will suggest that he was a troubled soul.
There are many troubled souls living amongst us.
As I wrote barely over a week ago about an acquaintance of mine who committed suicide, I realized how a trouble soul could be your neighbor. Life is cruel and the lessons that we learn from it can make us or break us. Mr. Lanza gave up on his life and seemingly wanted to inflict the pain he felt onto others.
The innocent ones suffered today. Those who only wanted to get home and enjoy good times with their parents, loved ones and friends. They paid an awful price for nothing. A f*cking coward took his worldly frustrations out on those who were too young to not only run away, but also defend themselves.
I speak for all of the parents when I say this: LET US NOT LET GO OF OUR CHILDREN. LOVE THEM AND COMFORT THEM, AND LET THEM KNOW THAT BECAUSE LIFE CAN BE HARSH AT TIMES, THEY MUST WEATHER THE STORM. BECAUSE THE DARK CLOUDS WILL COME, YET BETTER AND BRIGHTER DAYS ARE AHEAD OF THEM AS LONG AS THEY CAN HOLD ON.
Extend your arms and hug them tonight. And please, remember that there are parents who are identifying the murdered youth. Pray for them, as they will not have the same advantages as we have. Tell your kids how much you love them and never, under any circumstances allow them out of your sight. They do not have to be under your roof to know where they are, whom they are with and what they are doing. Put aside the fun-time in your life and spend that fun-time with them.
On a rare personal note, Mr. Lanza had a rage inside of him that I know far too well. I know this because I have that very same rage inside of me. It is the reason why I do not own a gun, despite feeling the need for one. It is also the reason why I would rather walk away from confrontation, instead of escalating one. I understand what capabilities I have when I am enraged. I can be, truly a destructive force to myself and to those around me.
Instead of reacting on my anger, I write, I love, I pray. Doing this is therapeutic. I live life for what it is and I deal with whatever cards I am dealt with. I also blame no one for my scars, as I understand that they are there for a reason. I hope to help people deal with their scars the way that I have dealt with mine.
There is a better way to act out on the frustrations of the world. The words that I write to you are living proof. May you rest in flames Mr. Lanza!