Tonight we were asked to write about advice..20 years forward, 20 years back and so on. Since bullying has been such a hot topic (and I was honored to be on Fox News a few weeks ago discussing it), I thought it would be a good idea to give some advice to bullies. Bullies come in all ages, shapes, colors and sizes. They are found on the playground, in the office, in the classroom, online and probably within every family. 20 years from now, I can imagine how hurting others will play out in the life of a bully (and it isn't looking too good in all areas of life since the Internet was born).
Therefore, here is my advice for bullies:
1. Someone loves you very much, or will love you very much in the future. Why risk losing love?
2. It takes much more energy to be mean than it does to be nice.
3. If you are leaving a digital footprint of bullying online, you are setting yourself up for great failure in the future.
4. Odds are, the person you are bullying may be your boss 20 years down the road.
5. Being mean to others will not get you far in life (spend a little time on Linkedin and you will see how professionals are focusing on giving).
6. All of the negative energy you give out will attract the same toward you in your own life.
7. Read about compassion, empathy and energy.
8. You are probably breaking the hearts of many people and you are not aware of it.
9. Bullying will not make you popular.
10. You are possibly causing life long pain and may not realize the consequences of your actions in the moment. Nobody should ever have to tolerate bullying, nobody.
Last, but not least, take all of that energy and turn it into good. Look into helping others. Find a focus. Join a youth group. Check out Dream Leaders and become one. Help others who are less fortunate than you. Become someone important by giving happiness, rather than giving pain. Stop now, apologize and make a positive difference in the world. Nobody wants to be remembered for the pain they caused others. Do social good in the world by giving back and you may just find that special person was inside and with you all along.
You can be happy too.
All parents must take an active role in the lives of their children, or they will look for attention elsewhere (positive or negative). Don't let your children bully other kids. Teach them right from wrong and be a role model. You have the power to help change the life of your own children and those they may be hurting. Talk to your children, be there in mind and body and really listen. We should never hear of one more child taking their life over this type of pain; it is real and it stays with many forever.
For more articles, to see my Fox Interview on bullying, and/or to learn more about the Dream Leaders Program, please follow me @RobynDShulman or stop by my site: http://www.ednewsdaily.com
If you are a bully turned friend and leader, I would love to hear your story of great courage. Come forward to inspire others. Start a movement.