Self Esteem v. Self Love

First of all, I want to say Happy Pride Day! LGBT-ers I admire your ability to fight the good fight with such love, grace, courage and creativity. You make the world a better place. Undoubtably you are great teachers in our world. You could certainly teach the rest of us a lot about self-love! Recently a pal of mine said she felt she had self-esteem but didn't have self-love. I had to ponder the difference.

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According to Wikipedia, self-esteem is a term used in psychology to reflect a person's overall evaluation or appraisal of his or her own worth. Self-esteem encompasses beliefs (for example, "I am competent", "I am worthy") and emotions such as triumph, despair, pride and shame[citation needed]. Self-esteem can apply specifically to a particular dimension (for example, "I believe I am a good writer and I feel happy about that") or have global extent (for example, "I believe I am a bad person, and feel bad about myself in general"). 

Self-esteem is usually created by doing something esteem-able whether it be winning a race or losing those last five pounds. Self-esteem usually requires effort and "doing". Self-love requires being and allowing. Self-Love is simply loving yourself no matter what. Even on those lazy days spent on the couch. Even when you wake up with a pimple on your face. I look at it like this: Self-Love is my Plan A, Self-Esteem is my Plan B. I love myself enough to challenge myself, I will workout when I don't always want to because I know how good I will feel when I am done. If this concept were a recipe it would like this: start out with 1 cup of Self-Love and add a few dashes of Self-Esteem

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Speaking of building self-love, I recently posted an article on the wonderful Kidfirmations website. Kidfirmations empowers children and parents with practical tools for living in alignment with their true nature. I share my own story as well as affirmations for children. Click here to read Affirmations for the Other Side of the Mirror.

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