NBA Center, Jason Collins, has come out according to an article in SI.com. In a frank and ground breaking article he details his journey to this point. I am not a big sports fan and hardly knew who he was. But I gather that it is not cool to be a big sports star and be gay. How courageous of him!
So how does this relate to this blog, Divorce Chicago Style? Well, it does. In his article he says:
"When I was younger I dated women. I even got engaged. I thought I had to live a certain way. I thought I needed to marry a woman and raise kids with her. I kept telling myself the sky was red, but I always knew it was blue."
Kudos to Jason Collins to have such self awareness! He has just saved some woman and their children from the horrors of divorce, of living with someone who was angry because they could not admit who they really are. Sooner or later that anger comes out in ways that are destructive to the marriage and the well being of the children.
Do you realize how many men marry just to have the cover of a wife and children so that they can present a normal facade to the world, yet in private have a secret life? It is not honest to marry a woman when you would really rather be with a man, or vice versa.
With his admission, let's hope that others will find the courage to be who they want to be.
When it comes to marriage, honesty regarding your sexual orientation matters. When it comes to playing basketball, it doesn't.
Go Jason Collins!
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