Why does loving your home matter? It matters because if you are happy in your home, you feel settled, you're calmer and that extends into other aspects of your life. After 12 years, I have lived in my current home longer than anywhere else—ever. When I was a little kid, and as my parents acclimated to the Chicago and the USA, we lived in several apartments. Not long after moving to our first house, my parents split up and it was back to apartments. My mom bought her “forever house” my senior year in high school, so I didn’t live there long either.
I started doing design work on all of my homes from the time I was into junior high. Each place – room, apartment or house – was at least partly “me” and I took some of that to the next place. Since I subsequently decided to study Interior Design my early passion doesn’t seem at all surprising. I particularly love that each room took on a different style. My last two rooms differed so much from each other. One was a girly room with little flowers on wallpaper and a four-poster bed and pink carpet. The last bedroom at Mom’s house had white furniture in a room with blue carpet and an accent wall of black and white wallpaper!
Adults may or may not become attached to “stuff”. Too much attachment could be a precursor to “Hoarders”, but that's pretty extreme and unlikely; it's more like Linus' blanket or Christopher Robin's Winnie the Pooh. As we become more independent, we have more control (yes, add “Usually”) over the stuff we have. By the time we live alone, we have started to make our own choices. Even I, as a Designer, inherited and assimilated some parental furnishings and have passed some onto our kids. Those belongings have sentimental value, can carry tradition with them and might have historical/collectible value as well. Or they become replaceable and disposable as we can afford to move on.
The more we put ourselves into our homes, the comfier we feel. The most important thing I do for clients is to listen, look at what they have and translate their taste into furnishings, colors and budgets that work for them. For me, ideal choices are those that last for a long time. When I see that a client still has furniture that we selected a number of years ago, it means that we picked out the right stuff. It's always good to refresh and redo or restyle, but why completely start over? Stability is good (and more affordable). A client once told me that she didn't want to buy a vintage light fixture (that she really liked) for her entryway because she likes to replace things regularly. I listened, but did not (and do not) “get it”. If I did, I probably wouldn't still remember the conversation!
So… hang on to the things you like—at least some of them--and look for more things to also fit that bill. Sometimes we can't afford exactly what we want, so the choice becomes to either select something more affordable or wait till it's the right time to buy. Both are OK! And I've done both. Your home may or likely won't have a perfect look. So? It's infinitely more important for you to be happy than to impress others with your environment.
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