Every child has a right to a mother and a father
That's based on the fact that men and women are different, and each generally brings to the marriage arrangement different abilities, qualities and characteristics to child-rearing.Each of these benefits children in different ways, and in combination better makes for a complete person.
This has got nothing to do with religion. My opposition to the formal institutionalization of same-sex marriage by government is that it destroys the exemplar that is inherent in the definition of marriage as between a man and a woman.
As I said in a previous post:
We will be shown the “evidence” of the research that demonstrates that children are no worse off when raised by same-sex couples. Even though there’s other research that challenges the premise. Suffice to say that for now, the social science evidence is not conclusive in either direction.
In any case and cognizant of the inherent deficiencies of social science research, I’m not so ready to ignore the evidence that is before our own eyes, that men and women are indeed different, that each brings contrasting qualities and behaviors to bear not just in child-rearing but in so many facets of life.
I'm not so ready, either, to turn over the creation of public policy to social scientists. I know that some "progressives" would ask us to check our intelligence and common sense at the door and genuflect before the squishy conclusions of this soft science.
Arguments based on "fairness" and "equal rights" fail to recognize the reality that marriage is not about individuals but about something larger--the common good. As appealing as the equal rights argument has been and the inroads that it has made in gaining public support, it's fundamentally a "where's mine?" argument. It's based on the assertion that the rights of "partners" in a relationship ultimately trump the rights and good of the children.
It is a selfish argument. And it is a sad commentary on today's culture that it is one on which the same-sex marriage debate has centered.
A footnote: Please don't tell me that because I believe that a man and a woman in union makes for better parents that I would outlaw single-parent families, or make people stay in an abusive marriages and so forth. I'm advocating for the preservation of a standard; the fact that we sometimes fall short of a standard doesn't mean that we should abandon that standard.
That said, let the hate mail roll.
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