She had 15 abortions...

before she decided to keep her next two children alive.


This is a most amazing story, and now Irene Vilar is writing about it in a new book Impossible Motherhood: Testimony of an Abortion Addict. You may not want to read the book (I probably will), but if this subject interests you, you'll certainly want to read the story.

Much can be said of the story--the heartbreak, the complications of
Vilar's choices, her difficult background (her grandmother was one of
the imprisoned Puerto Rican nationalists who shot up Congress), the way
creepy men victimized her (and her unborn children). I would have like
to have seen greater recognition that the lives of 15 people were
snuffed out. And is it true that you can get addicted to having abortions, like you might become addicted to drugs? If so, doesn't this add to the list of dangers (long-denied by abortion supporters) of having an abortion?

Advocates for the unborn have long argued that abortion is too often
used as a form of birth control, and this case could well be the
premier example. Surely this should trouble even advocates for choice
who repeatedly say that abortion is a sad thing and should be made
rare. By any measure, 15 abortions is an abuse of a legal right and a
moral wrong. Can we at least agree on that much?


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  • Sorry about above blank. Irene Vilar's REAL understory is more about a woman addicted to pregnancy and the rush that goes with it, I suspect, than having abortions to end them. Those, I have no doubt, and as a physician who has seen women struggle with making the decision to abort, were each and every one a wrenching decision in which she fought the human instinct to care and nurture the life inside, and her relationship with a husband who by all reports, harangued her each time for some supposed female weakness. I don't doubt that the title is apt when it speaks of an addiction. Vilar sems to have developed a phenomenon just like a drug addict who, while high, loves his drug but when he's confronted with the reality of sustaining his search for drugs, hate himself and would do anything to change his way. The joy of pregnancy likely repeatedly gave way to Vilar's guilt and fear she WAS somehow infirm for getting pregnant. My last point: Using the addicion analogy, just like an addict, the acts around getting her "drug" (pregnancy) become second nature and there reaches a point where the addict loses touch with his own behaviour and its motivations. Though I am pro-choice, it seems to me that there are two trageies here: Vilar's need for the up-and-down ride of pregnancy-abortion, and the lost potential for humanity of the 15 lives that could have resulted from Vilar getting help for her issues.

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