Porn and Relationships: A Personal Opinion

Porn and Relationships: A Personal Opinion
Ah, porn. The very first experience I had with porn was when I was 12 or 13. Remember Myspace? In it’s early stages of development and popularity, my only friends on this social network were hardly social. It was my sister, and then 20 too many shirtless men who claimed they were 16 but were probably 50+... Read more »

Your Partner may NOT be able to Play Every "Role" for you - and that's OKAY!

Your Partner may NOT be able to Play Every "Role" for you - and that's OKAY!
When I say “role,” I’m not talking about sexual role playing. FYI. Or at least this time I’m not. Ever hear of black or white thinking? Inflexible thinking? All or nothing thinking? Yep, all the same thing. And all are based around the notion that “if everything doesn’t line up, or if everything is not... Read more »

Cheating: A Conversation That's Not Talked About

Cheating: A Conversation That's Not Talked About
Let’s talk cheating. Because it’s a topic that I, for whatever reason, fixate on. My therapist and I haven’t quite figured it out. That is, why I fixate so heavily on it. I have a couple hypotheses, but none have been proven. My own psychoanalytic self believes it could be fear of abandonment, so I self-sabotage... Read more »
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You are More than "Just Sex"

You are More than "Just Sex"
Let’s start this post off with a female mindset I was exposed to. The mindset that leaves many females with the assumed obligation that they must “caution” or “warn” their hook-up: “I can’t have sex tonight,” prior to hanging out or getting booty-called. The warning stems from the fact that as females, we do have... Read more »

What we Don't Want to Hear on a First Date

What we Don't Want to Hear on a First Date
I think it’s safe to say we’ve all had some cringe worthy first dates. Simply put: the main goal of a first date usually is just to have fun. Sounds easy enough, right? Not when the conversation sucks. Communication is key. What we choose to talk about on a first date is usually a good... Read more »

Texting Before a First Date: To do or NOT To Do

Texting Before a First Date: To do or NOT To Do
My immediate response: don’t. But, because I like to be as unbiased as possible (which isn’t saying much), I’ll consider this question from both sides. First off, when I say “texting before a first date,” we’re referring to the texting that usually occurs once we received the ultimate form of validation: a match on Tinder... Read more »
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A Thing Called Closure and Why it Doesn't Exist

A Thing Called Closure and Why it Doesn't Exist
“I just need to get closure.” Does this statement sound familiar to anyone? (Y’all are nodding your heads at the computer screen…) We seem to use the term “closure” in a way that is actually anything but closure. The term, closure, in the dating realm is meant to signify the conversation (or rather, multiple conversations)... Read more »

Dating Season Doesn't end just because Summer has: Bring on the Fall Dates!

Dating Season Doesn't end just because Summer has: Bring on the Fall Dates!
As much as I love summer dates outside on patios or at the beach, I think it’s safe to assume most of us are ready for the weather to change, the scarves to come out, and for dates to transform into something new. I’ve put together a list for all you daters, both new and... Read more »

The Art of Bread Crumbing

The Art of Bread Crumbing
This past weekend, as I was face deep in guacamole and a taco simultaneously, I was introduced to the concept of bread crumbing. My mind instantly went to vividly imagining my nightly experience in bed: eating a semi-burnt peanut butter and jelly sandwich, ultimately leading to each and every crumb ending up on me, on my bed,... Read more »
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Being Single Doesn't Mean you're Alone

Being Single Doesn't Mean you're Alone
The reality is that whether we’re absentmindedly scrolling through our Instagram feed or Facebook or we’re out with our friends, someone else will ALWAYS be in a relationship. And the other part of that reality is that you might not be. You fall into the single category, which also means you may very likely be... Read more »