Oh hey! So I see my headline got your attention - now, on to the heart of the issue: women and porn.
When I went to see Katy Perry's "Part of Me 3-D" last week, my friend and I passed the theater where "Magic Mike" (Channing Tatum's new semi-autobiographical stripper movie) was playing. Our gaits slowed as we peeked in the doors to get a glimpse at the silver screen, and our hearts fell as we realized we couldn't see anything without going in.
"Oh em gee, I want to go see that SO bad..."
"So do I!" my friend exclaimed, somewhat sheepishly.
We didn't end up going in - we had tickets to go see Katy Perry, after all (what some would argue, the lesser of two evils - check out my Christianity Today article on the "Part of Me 3-D" movie here), but it was too late: the seed had been planted, and temptation was on the loose.
So, what exactly is the problem with wanting to watch muscular, tan, greased-up men strut around on a stage? My conscience hadn't been checked until I read blogger Melissa Jenna's post today. MJ argues that, instead of running to theaters and bookstores to watch Magic Mike and pick up 50 Shades of Grey (both arguably pornographic, both extremely popular with women these days), women could, and should be, investing in real life relationships with their boyfriends, husbands, brothers and friends - and, ultimately, their relationship with Jesus.
Don't get me (or MJ) wrong - preaching at people is not an appealing pursuit. But, her blog post is a truth bomb that's worth considering - especially for those who take the Bible seriously. Here are a couple worthwhile quotes from her article that I agree with wholeheartedly:
"Oh, and that saying “you are what you eat?” I’d say the same thing goes for media: you are what you consume. Pornography is unhealthy. There, I said it."
So, to jump on MJ's bandwagon, I would like to say that, to prevent us from completely ruining our perceptions of men in real life, let's take a pass on this unedifying fantasy world, and instead, appreciate the men in our lives for what God created them to be - strong, courageous, brave, loving, and handsome descendants of Adam (let's be real - he must have been pretty dreamy. But he probably never strutted around on a stage in a Chippendales' tuxedo for strangers).
The clincher for me was the following passage:
"To gain another perspective, imagine your husband (or father/brother/church leader) going around bragging about how much he loved reading last month’s Playboy magazine, or rallying all of his guy friends to go see “Magic Meghan” for the third time. If our husbands were drooling over a movie about female strippers, we would be livid."
Given, for ladies who don't have a problem with their men reading Playboy, this point is moot, but, I see this as #TRUTH, and hope the readers of this blog will see it as thought-provoking as well. So, instead of buying a ticket to go see Magic Mike or picking up a copy of 50 Shades of Grey, I think I'll call my dad and thank him for being a great role model of self-controlled respectfulness in his going-on-30-year-marriage to my mother.
Thoughts? Post them! I'm keen on feedback. Cheers.